No words, just symbols...

♀ + ♀ = ♥

I'm just sooo gay! ;o)

and...

...too busy these days - but I'm not gone, and 2009 will be a good and productive year in every sense. Just as 2008, but not quite as busy, I hope.

Off to birthday parties and Christmas celebrations,
- GayGirl

I made it...

... I am now back home with Wifey. I had a great trip and got to meet a lot of really good business contacts.

I've got more trips lined up before the year is over, but no more overnight trips - just really long days, but that's fine. :o)

Oh, and the solution [the reason why I felt I could sleep without Wifey] was that after several plane and train rides and many meetings (plus half a bottle of nice red wine during a dinner with colleagues), I was completely beat and could barely stay awake. ;o)

But the REAL help was the fact that my "sleeping shirt" for the night, was same one that Wifey had slept in the previous night, and also, I had a T-shirt of hers with me, that she had worn a few nights (the one she'd been "fragranizing" for me, LOL). This "scent shirt" I had right next to my heart all night. I actually folded it togther and put it under my night shirt, and just hugged it ALL night. I woke up in exactly the same position I had fallen asleep... and Wifey and I texted each other both right before going to sleep and as soon as we woke up.

Anyway, now we're just going to enjoy the weekend... And [especially] each other! :oP

Feeling goooood,
- GayGirl
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I will... But I really can't

To sleep a night without my Wifey, is something I've always said I wouldn't do... Actually, it's something we've always said WE wouldn't do. And still, that's what I'll do for one night next week.

I can't... I mean I REALLY don't want to, but I will. It's a business trip and 36 hours are jam-packed with more meetings than I can count, and in two different countries. So three plane rides, a few train and cab rides, different time zones and one night in a hotel later, I'll be back.
Wifey is okay with it... I can't really say that I am, but I'll still do it.

However, I'll only be able to sleep because I'm completely exhausted, which I will no doubt be. Dreaming of Wifey... and wearing a shirt that she's "fragranizing" for me a few days before I leave. ;o)

So in love... and so very, very torn!
- GayGirl
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Feeling numb

I am truly amazed that Obama actually made it, and so very happy that he did - even if I still wish it had been Hillary, but I've come to terms with that. LOL, well, maybe not quite, but I AM happy with the result and think it's amazing in so many ways.

However, everything - all the progress and happiness I felt at first -- when it was clear that Obama had won -- was extremely diminished by the result of Prop. 8.

I don't even live in California, but where I do live we "only" have domestic partnership, so I understand the significance and possible repercussions of this result. I guess that's why I've been going through the same thing. I sat at work and constantly hit the refresh button hoping and wishing that the result would suddenly start going in the opposite direction... But it never happened. Meanwhile everyone around me we SO excited about Obama winning, but I simply felt robbed of the "amazing and historic progress" that everyone was thrilled about.
Probably because I know that Wifey and I (yes, I will forever call her “wife” even if we don’t have “marriage”) would’ve gotten married over the summer, if we lived in CA.

However, when I saw pictures and footage from the impromptu march, I realized that this is far from over. But I'm still heartbroken by the result.

I guess I just can't understand why my ability to get married affects anybody else. I mean, I could marry and divorce a new murderer, rapist, child abuser, WHATEVER, every year. Well, as long as that person is a man. But to marry the person I love, I need to have permission from the majority? Well then, if you get to decide who I can marry, shouldn’t I have a say in who you can marry as well?

Actually, at first I thought Prop. 8 was fine, cause I really couldn’t imagine that it would be passed. I guess I underestimated how much people enjoy having power over other people’s lives. I mean, you can watch me walking down the street with a girl one day, and if we get married that very night and you see us again the next day, you would STILL just see two girls walking down the street. It changes absolutely nothing in your life, but you still want to exercise your power when you have the ability.

Feeling sad and confused,
- GG

P.S. Sorry about the lack of posts - I've just been very busy and very umm, well, numb after the election. I'm back now though. ;o)

It was bound to happen... Meme-time!

Birth month: August... I am SUCH the Leo! :o)

Birthplace: Europe... and not even one of the warmer countries. Why couldn't I have been born in California?

My Heritage: Northern European, but with some South-Eastern European in the mix somewhere (we're not sure where, but there's a bit of "Gypsies, tramps and thieves" on my father's side)

Eye Color: One of my nicknames (and profile picture) isn't "Miss Green Eyes" for nothing. Hmm, though sometimes during the colder months, they can seem blue.

Right or Left handed: Right, but very left legged. Whether at soccer or karate (yeah, I've tried a couple of cool things), my left leg is by far the strongest and most accurate.

Shoes I'm wearing today: Puma, beige suede with light blue leather highlights. My feet love them!

My Weakness: My wife, food and my temper (in that order)

My Worst Fear: Losing people I love

My Perfect Pizza: Very simple with a thin crust and just tomato, oregano and cheese

Most Overused Phrase: Calling something "gay" because you find it lame or feminine

Your Best Physical Feature: Eyes and hands - though I'm talented in other areas as well... But... that wasn't the question, right. ;o)

McDonalds or Burger King: Burger Queen

Coke or Pepsi: Diet Coke... Always and forever, though I rarely drink it these days

Chocolate or Vanilla: Vanilla... 'cause then I'll ad my own flavour with a zillion toppings and sauces

Cappuccino or Coffee: I used to say I'd never drink coffee. Now I'm the only one in my family and circle of friends that choose espresso when we're out

Cash or Credit cards: I like the cash... I feel richer and more in touch with my spendings. Though I do have all the major credit cards and use them when travelling

Do you Smoke: No, thankfully I never got into that. I know I have quite an addictive personality, so I'd probably be hooked in a bad way

Do you Swear: Aww HELL yes!

Do you Sing: I like to, yes, and if it's quiet I'm always humming to myself or singing a song in my head

Do you get along with your Parents: Yes, I acutally have a great relationship with my parents - it doesn't hurt that they adore my dear Wifey. ;o)

Do you like Thunderstorms: Oh yeah... ;o)

Do you play an Instrument: STILL need to learn to play the guitar

Do you drink alcohol: Yes, but I VERY rarely get drunk. A bit of a buzz once in a while is enough for me

Do you do any drugs: Never

In the past month have you eaten a box of Oreos: Not a BOX, no... LOL, well, another kind of "box" yes, but not of Oreos. A snackpack of Oreos, yes.

In the past month have you eaten Sushi: Unfortunately no

Ever gone Skinny Dipping: Yes, and it was very nice, but quite innocent

How do you want to Die: My wife and I have already agreed to die in our sleep in each others arms, when we're old and our time has come

What do you want to be when you Grow Up: Living in the Santa Barbara (CA) area

What country would you most like to Visit: Australia, since I still haven't been there

Best Clothing Style: "College Girl" in the Fall look

Number of CDs I own: No idea, but I love music, so I have A LOT!

Number of Piercings: Only the ears, one in each

Number of Tattoos: One... and counting

Number of things in my Past I Regret: In theory, there's a few. But eveything I've been through has brought me here... I can't regret anything!

FINALLY, I understand now!

I've been trying to figure out why I love the Callie/Erica storyline and relationship on Grey's Anatomy so much, and now I know. Malinda Lo's column at AfterEllen.com just managed to explain it perfectly. Also, her column made me realize how much their story reminds me of how I met my Wifey.

We're always gushing about how happy we are that things went so slow. I mean, people knew we should be together for quite a while before we realized it. We quickly became best friends and were really scared of losing the friendship if things didn't work out - quite a silly fear as things have turned out. But still, everything was savoured and we can laugh at how innocent we were in the beginning... but it was perfect.

Thank you, Malinda... I think I'm gonna feel all warm and tingly inside for a while after reading your column. :o)

- GayGirl

How dare you?

Okay, I may be sensitive and my sense of fairness can get a bit warped. But when I go to a special screening of a movie featuring a lesbian love story as the primary theme, then I have a REALLY hard time tolerating that the straight couple in front of me feel a need to constantly be making out and be super lovey-dovey. I really am not much for public affection (kisses, hugs, holding hands is all fine, but I feel that make-out sessions is really inappropriate - the disco, bar and club scene not included).

Anyway, I have to look at you straight couples “flashing your sexuality in my face” every single day - oh yeah, you KNOW that’s what they’d be calling it if two boys in love were even thinking about holding hands. But when I go to see a movie made for ME and MY people, then I really don’t think I should have to put up with it. Oh, I know this couple were feeling very tolerant and open-minded by going to see this movie (where the audience were otherwise gay, bisexual or single straight men hoping to see some lesbian action), but you seemed more pathetic than anything, since you were sooo busy showing everyone that you were a couple, you know, straight couple… being like, totally straight… with each other.

Besides, this movie was REALLY good, so if this straight couple had actually been interested in the movie, then they would have been acting like the rest of the people there. All everyone else had time for was holding hands, sharing loving glances, sitting close and reaching for a kleenex. Yes, even those insensitive assholes in front of me couldn’t ruin this movie called "The Chinese Botanist's Daughter".

Think “Brokeback Mountain” set in a totally different environment and with lesbians… and they made ALL the right choices – not the safe or easy ones, but always the option that could keep them together in SOME way. There's a review at AfterEllen here

Feeling happy to be gay in this society and time (even if we still have a long way to go for equality)
- GayGirl

Dreams of pregnancy

No, I have no desire to get pregnant anytime soon – if ever… probably never, actually. However, what my nifty little headline refers to are actual dreams I’ve been having about once a year for the past 4-5 years.

What interesting is that these dreams always seem to follow the same storyline, even if the scenery is always changing:

Part 1) The dream begins and suddenly I look down and see my VERY pregnant belly (we’re talking 8 months pregnant). At first I always seem to get very happy at this discovery, but this feeling only lasts for about 10 seconds. Then comes…

Part 2) PANIC! I am not at all ready to have a child. What am I gonna do? What about that trip we’re taking to New York next month? Well, we’ll have to cancel that. And I’ll have to tell my workplace that I’m going on maternity leave in like a day or two…

Part 3) HOW did this even happen? At this point I’m always with my dear wife and telling her that I swear I haven’t been cheating on her (which I never would in ANY case, and she knows this). Besides, I’m a Goldstar lesbian (you know, never had sex with a man), so we’d really be talking Immaculate Conception here.

Part 4) My wife believes me and seems much calmer than me, which is always very comforting. There’s not even the tiniest doubt or confusion… obviously she just got me pregnant and we’re not surprised that our lesbian lovechild is making me look 8 months pregnant within a day or two. But me, I’m still in a state of panic and feel like my life is ending.

Part 5) I wake up and immediately feel my stomach and breathe a heavy sigh of relief… then I wake up Wifey and tell her I’ve had a scary dream, and she holds me.

However, as the years go by (and more of our friends start getting babies), my REAL concern is if I ever have this dream and I don’t panic. What will this mean? And will I then panic when I wake up because I’ll suddenly feel an overwhelming need to get pregnant as soon as possible.

Only time will tell… but for now, I have ALL that I need and I am so immensely thankful for everything. :o)

Living in bliss,
- GayGirl

To object, or grin and bear it?

Every now and then - especially as a gay person and sometimes with higher frequency than what you imagine - a situation comes up, when you're faced with the moral dilemma of whether to object (and consequently reprimand?) or simply grin and bear it.

So why would you choose the latter, if it's against your morals? Well, because the first option of objecting will often lead you to avoid having to hear the comments, but it will rarely do more than that. Basically, this means that you won't be there to object to other - and perhaps harsher - comments.

So... Grin and bear it? Well, I find myself taking this road more often than not. I tell myself that it's simply to stay on top of the situation instead of missing out on worse comments than the wisecrack about the waiter's lisp and lose wrist. I'm not so sure that I'm not sometimes just chickening out, but I can guarantee that I would never accept or ignore any truly hateful or discriminating comment. I guess that means that I'll choose to grin and bear it as a general rule, which instead means that the real question is: Up to which point? What is my personal limit and how will I then react?

Feeling quite philosophical,
- GayGirl

Am I an addict?

Yes, I'm afraid I have to admit that I am an addict.

It's not one of the usual Rock n' Roll addictions like alcohol or drugs or even smoking. But it IS an addiction and it is definitely bad for me: Food.

And no, I'm not at the point where I'm dangerously obese. Actually, I'm not obese by any definition, but I am overweight and would be a lot healthier if I lost a good 15-20 pounds. Fortunately I also eat healthy things, but my issue is with moderation.

You know how they say you can have anything in moderation? Well, I'm not so sure about that. I can't have just ONE piece of chocolate if I have a whole box in front of me... Excuse me, but *chuckles* "a box in front of me".. oh, how my mind easily wanders into naughty areas. :oP

ANYWAY, I can't stop after just one piece, and I know it. So my point - and yes, as always, I do actually have one - is that when you get down to basics, it's no different than the addiction to i.e. alcohol. You wouldn't say "Oh, go ahead, Bob, I know you're an alcoholic, but you know how they say everything is fine in moderation... Go ahead, enjoy a drink or two on the weekends".

But somehow, food just isn't considered as serious as alcohol, smoking or drugs. Even though obesity is now a heavy burden on hospitals around the world just as smoking, alcohol and drugs have been for years. I just wish everyone would accept the fact that some people have problems with food just as others have with smoking or alcohol. And respect this addiction as something serious, by - at the very least - not trying to persuade them that it okay to eat the chocolate or a piece of cake, because "You have to indulge sometimes, and you're doing so well... Everything is fine in moderation". My ASS it is.

I have gotten this far without becoming obese and am well on my way to losing weight, because I don't indulge and I accept that I can't have that first "taste" of my addiction without falling off the wagon.

Actually, this entire complaint is only mildly personal annoyance, since my real issue is to see friends who experienced massive weightloss be tempted by so-called friends, when you KNOW they have a problem with food. I have personally seen one of my best childhood friends lose and gain 100 pounds THREE times. Everything's going fine, and everybody's impressed, but once it seems like a "new lifestyle", the 'friends' are back with their good intentions and cliche advice of "moderation".

Anyway... I won't have it anymore. I won't pressure anyone overweight into dieting, but if they make that step, I certainly won't pressure them into returning to their bad habits just cause they do well.

And with that, I'm off to eat some healthy snacks. ;o)

- GayGirl

Woman, feminist, cook... Goddess!

I would like to direct your attention to Domestic Goddess Nigella Lawson, who - in my humble opinion - is the essense of being a woman. When you look the word "Woman" up in a dictionary, you should see Nigella. I know many men and women who simply adore her (like me!), but I also know many that are intimidated by her and without knowing anything about her, turns to words such as "food porn" or "repressed" (?!) to describe her.

Well, excuse me, but are you completely blind or have you simply been living under a rock?! This woman is a feminist of the BEST kind, if you ask me - and I know you didn't, but I really couldn't care less cause you're reading my blog and so I'm in charge... Oh yeah, baby, I am woman, hear me roar. See? That's what I mean, just writing about her I feel empowered.

But yes, I will give you that she is a VERY sensual persona, and when she's cooking (if ya know what I mean *wink, wink, nudge, nudge*?!) then Wifey and I can't help but smile and laugh at how very erotic even the most simple roast potato can become, because yes, she is very flirtatious. However, I really don't think it's something she does intentionally.
In fact, here's a little tidbit from a Herald Time article on that exact topic:

"I always feel people overstress that," she says. "My producers are women and they're heterosexual women. As far as I'm aware, their view isn't that I'm going to be singing my siren song."

Perhaps. But it's hard to discount Lawson's flirtatious ways with the camera, the knowing, sidelong glances, the slow bites. Overstressed or not, food and sensuality blur a bit on Lawson's set.

"I love food and I'm very greedy," she says. "But I always feel it makes it sound like I'm doing some exotic dance of the seven veils."

In a cooking-mood... or maybe I just feel like watching Nigella cooking shows? If I wasn't in touch with being gay, I think my first time watching Nigella would've taken care of that. ;o)
- GayGirl

P.S. Bonus item of the day that may tickle your interest:
"... most [women] simply have, somewhere, a fantasy about having sex, in a non-defining, non-exclusive way, with other women"

- Nigella Lawson in her article "Sapphism is more than designer-dykery" from The Guardian.

Allow me to explain...

I'm one of those potentially boring people that exist in the bliss of "we". My wife and I have long been living under the dogma that "We're a package deal" meaning that if you want one of us, you get both. If you insist on only one, then you get... Nada!

It's not that we NEED to be together all the time, it's simply that we choose to. Because we WANT to.

Anyway, a while back I was thinking of a way to explain the way I feel, and the obvious first point is the fact that we're lovers AND absolutely best friends - soul mates in every way, if you believe in that sort of thing. But still, people seem to think this is just 'a line' that we [people of the homosexual persuasion] use to "promote our lifestyle". That's right, you KNOW you can hear some right wing homophobes using that exact line.

So here goes, this is my way of explaining how I feel about my wife:

You know when you have a great dream. No matter what your great dream is, you know it's the kind of dream where, when you wake up, you immediately try to go back to sleep. You do this, because all you want is to return to this world within your dream. Well, what if when you went to bed you could go to this dreamworld every night, and keep on having new experiences within this world? Wouldn't you just accept and Cherish this possibility? My life with my wife IS that great dream for me. And I always choose to live the dream with my wife. I cannot think of a reason why I shouldn't.

Feeling the love,
- GayGirl

I love this song

This song really doesn't suit my state of mind or feelings in general, but I remember a time when it fit my life perfectly. Actually, I didn't even know this song back then - thank you radio, Internet and YouTube for opening up the vast world of music. ;o)

Anyway, I'm sure others can relate to this song - or remember a time when they could - so I'd still like to share it with you. It's called "Losing you" and is by a Danish band called Kira & The Kindred Spirits. As far as I know they've made two amazing albums, though my favorite is without a doubt the one called "This is not an exit", where this song is from. I know the lead singer spent a lot of time in the US, and is friends with another of my favorite artist, Beth Hart, who has mentioned her at various concerts and in interviews.

Tonight I'll go to bed
Unsatisfied
My world is caving in
And I've got no place left to hide

And I won't let you down
But I've got scars in my mind
Your life is in my hands
I can't pretend that
Things are fine

Although I am scared
To sing you this song
I'm scared the words I say
Will cast in stone the
Damage done

And all that we have tried
And all that we did wrong
And who will hold the blame
And who will fight
Til love moves on

And I... I'm losing,
Yes I'm Losing you again...

And how is that babe
How is that babe
How is that my friend

You've got your pain
To tend to
A day to put an end to
A womb to climb back into
And a love that never bends you

Well all it seems I'm left with is some
Clarity to lend you
All it seems I'm left with
Is some truth to offend you

And I'm... I'm losing you,
I'm Losing you again...

Have you ever waited
Too long
When you knew your life's
Gone Wrong


And of course, you really should hear the song, 'cause the singer is one of the best in the world at portraying all the emotions of the lyrics in any song. I wanted to hear the song today and of course I found it on YouTube within seconds, so just go here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QqYn9bt_iSE

Getting in touch with all feelings,
-GayGirl

UPDATE: LindSam on Loveline audio

Here's a working link to the LindSam audio - the one from AfterEllen couldn't handle all the traffic. ;o)

Listen to the FULL interview directly from Loveline's website here

Just find the September 21st audio link called "Lindsay Lohan and Samantha Ronson call the show" - it's still the first link as this post is being made.

Happy to help,
- GayGirl

LindSam confirms romance and Aiken is [officially] out

A lot has been said about Lindsay Lohan's way of dealing with the "rumours" of her being in a romantic relationship with Samantha Ronson. Now, I can understand and (at least in theory) respect the fact that as long as she hasn't confirmed anything, then it would technically be "outing her", when you report on their relationship.
However, she has done nothing to hide their relationship or her feelings, and has done everything short of saying "Yep, I'm gay". So why is it that when it's a same-sex relationship, then we simply have to have this verbal confirmation? I think it's just plain stupid, and LindSam have handled it all in a great way, which Sarah Warn of AfterEllen has written a great piece on here - oh yes, I do adore the entire concept and execution of the AfterEllen concept.
Anyway, all those in need of the verbal confirmation now have it! :o) Lindsay Lohan has now openly talked about their relationship live on the radio via phone in by stating that they've been together for "A very long time", when asked directly about their relationship (don't take my word for it, you can hear it here).
Again, I'll just point you in the direction of AfterEllen for the full story.
Lindsay truly makes me feel proud for her and the way she handled everything with the press throughout the rumours and constant speculation about her very public feelings. You rock! :o)

All smiles,
- GayGirl

P.S. I don't mean to diminish Clay Aiken's "Yes, I'm gay" statement on the cover of People Magazine, but it was hardly a surprise, and while Lindsay hasn't been hiding, then he really has been very coy about the "gay issue". I will however give him due respect, for coming out with his son in his arms, and attracting focus to gay parents. AfterElton (yes, I love that site too, and I LOVE gay guys, so I'll be sure to touch back on that topic soon) has the full story.

It's working already...

See, my Blog Oath is working already 'cause here I am again!

Actually, I just realized that my true allegiance lies somewhere else - not that this means I won't keep my promises and live by my pledge of yesterday. I am not a fickle person, so you needn't worry.

In any case, here goes... The pledge that will triumph all others at any given time:

I pledge allegiance to my wife and to the marriage which symbolises our unity, one love, indivisible, with liberty and justice for us both

Always,
- GayGirl

The Blog Oath

Okay, so I really haven't been doing my job with this blog, which would be actually blogging on a regular basis. For that, I beg your forgiveness and humbly ask that you give me a chance to redeem myself as I make this Blog Oath:

I pledge allegiance to my blog and to the people who read it, one blog under me, indivisible, with humor, honesty, justice and at least one post a week for all to read.

I always keep my promises... At least when I actually mean them while making them ;o),
- GayGirl

A good job is great, a bad job is... HELL!

Okay, so I'm in a really good job now, which made me think about how I've been pretty happy with the jobs I've had. Except for one time, where I took on a job even though I had a feeling it wasn't right.

So why did I take it? Well, it's pretty simply actually:

1) Because they headhunted me, which was really flattering, and

2) They offered a damn nice paycheck, which I actually really needed.

Anyway, I learned my lesson quite fast, as I almost didn't make it home after the first day of work before breaking down in tears. In all honesty, my breakdown was due to many things, but boiled down to the fact that I'd left a steady job - which I could do with my eyes closed - and had great colleagues and quite a lot of freedom... Only thing missing was a decent salary and a promotion (both of which I had been promised for a long time).

The other "cry factor" was the fact that this new workplace had absolutely no freedom and a lot of extra hours, which I had said already at the job interview was the one thing I absolutely wasn't interested in. Because of this I felt cheated from the get go, and over all, I just wasn't happy. Plain and simple.

I only lasted a couple of months at this company before I found a new job, which I simple love - everyone could feel my misery, when I was at the other company, which became especially visible after I left the place and everyone commented on how happy I seemed again. And really, if I hadn't left my old job to take on the job I hated, then I probably wouldn't have ended up where I am now, so it was probably meant to be. Still, it was a really bad time for me.

But I do have to say that the people at that bad workplace were really nice - I was 'out and proud' from the first time they contacted me about the job and everyone accepted me completely - so I got to know some good people, and I learned a huge lesson:

Listen to your inner voice, gut feeling, intuition, WHATEVER you want to call it. It's usually right!

Happy at work,

- GayGirl

P.S. My sweet wife was ready to let me quit right away, cause she saw how unhappy I was, but I couldn't do this. First of all because we needed the money (it was after all one of the reasons I took the job), but also because I'm not a quitter. And they actually really liked me there, and offered me to come back if I changed my mind, but it just wasn't for me. Not the people or the work really, but the company and the way they did business, which was the one thing no one could change.

On vacations with Ellen

Sometimes these things happen, where you can't help but think that there is some greater force tying everything together. For me, this moment of enlightenment always come when I'm travelling, and somehow I always stumble across Ellen's talkshow... And I mean WHEREEVER I am. Obviously, it's no surprise that Ellen is on, when I'm in New York, but in the Middle East or Africa... i.e. Egypt?!

Now, the fact that her show was on isn't in itself that mindblowing amazing - Rachel Ray, Dr. Phil and Oprah were also on, so it's not like Ellen RULED the TV screens of Egypt. However, what IS amazing is the fact that whenever we're travelling and come across an episode of Ellen's talkshow, it's always one where's she's celebrating Cinco de Mayo! I mean, come on... I travel to New York in May and catch a show on the day of Cinco de Mayo: No surprise. But Ellen on TV in a Muslim country in September and again: It's Cinco de Mayo... AND on top of that, it's one I haven't seen before.

Uh huh, I'm really starting to believe that Ellen DeGeneres is the fabric that ties the world together. . .
Scratch that! She even talks with animals... Now I KNOW she is! ;o)

Back in business,
- GayGirl

Ellen & Portia marry

Woohoo, this is definitely the wedding of the year - as far as I'm concerned, anyway!

Congratulations Ellen & Portia... You are amazing together and set the most beautiful example for all the world to see.

A good day to be...
- GayGirl

HAPPY 50TH BIRTHDAY MADONNA!

Diva, legend and QUEEN of pop... We salute you!

Honeymoon miracle

I completely forgot about the time we didn't actually plan to stay anywhere near a Chevy's, but still we ended by one by pure luck from the Goddess above.

We were driving from San Francisco to Los Angeles, and had made quite a few stops on the way there, so we decided to spend the night at a motel somewhere in between and just went through our coupon book, and found one to our satisfaction (we like it cheap, but GOOD, so we're by no means a "budget" kind of travelling couple, LOL).
Anyway, we pull up to this motel, and right next to it - and I mean RIGHT next to it - was a Chevy's! It was perfect and obviously, since we we're staying right next to it, we could go a bit Margarita crazy (or actually, we were all about Strawberry Daiquiries back then)... Ooooh, it was great!

Oh, AND this was our honeymoon (driving around in California 'cause we LOVE roadtrips), so it really was like a wedding present from above.

Happy thoughts,
- GayGirl

I LOVE Chevy's!

The fresh, delicious Mexican food that I simply cannot get enough of - their Sizzling Fajitas are especially good at getting my juices flowing. If I could only go to one restaurant for the rest of my life, Chevy's would definitely be in my top five. Why not number one, you say?! Well, my conscience comes into play here, and in order to give myself even more delicious and healthy options (if we're talking one restaurant for the rest of my life), I'd have to go with Fresh Choice, which is one of my all time top favorites too.

But still... Chevy's is and always will be the place I HAVE to go to, if I was travelling to a city, where they have a franchise. Oh, and for the record, they DON'T have one where we live - both my Wifey and I adore Chevy's and actually, she's the one who introduced me to it (Thanks Hon!). The truth is, when we plan our vacations and decide on i.e. a road trip, then we'll actually plan our route based on where we can drop by a Chevy's.

I think we've gone to about 4 or 5 different Chevy's so far, and my favorite is probably the one in New York (right by Times Square and next to two movie theaters) and not only because the food has been perfect and the staff absolutely wonderful (and often gay, LOL), but also because when we're in New York, neither of us will have to drive home, cause we'll just walk home.
And you know what that means:

GayGirl & Wifey: "We'll both have a Margarita"
Cute waiter: "You want the regular or large one?"
GayGirl & Wifey (quick look at each other and then the waiter gets our answer in unision): "LARGE, please!"

And of course, we also have the Chevy's Cookbook, so now we go a little crazy sometimes and cook up all the delicious dishes (along with Margaritas, of course)... Still, there is nothing like the real deal.

Oh Chevy's... I miss you - and my mouth is watering just from thinking about you! ;o)

- GayGirl

Is my dog gay?

Our little household consists of my wonderful Wifey, our cat and our dog (both female) and myself so there's a lot of oestrogen flowing around in this house. Especially these days... our dog is in heat!

However, she's not really all that interested in the male dogs. I mean, she likes all dogs and all people, but still, it would seem quite natural for her to be CRAZY for some male dog attention these days. So, I'm wondering if maybe my dog is gay? I mean, all the religious fanatics already love to think that we (the homosexuals) are contagious, which is why kids and other vulnerable individuals should be kept far away from us, right?

Then again, this might all change once she hits the peak of her heat. By that time she'll probably be a regular little trollop! ;o)

How about LindSam?

Okay, let's get to it... I can hardly keep avoiding it, and why should I? As a GayGirl I have been keeping an eye on the Lindsay Lohan and Samantha Ronson stories, and something has been puzzling me lately; We have LiLo and SamRon, but they still haven't really gotten a combined name like Brangelina or TomKat, sooo...

How about LindSam?

I like it... I'm using it!

Also, regarding the question of "Are they even together?" Well, if they were two people of the opposite sex, then people wouldn't need the confirmation of anyone having to come out or describe the nature of their relationship. And really, isn't it a positive thing, that Lindsay treats this like any other realtionship? I mean, she wouldn't give a press conference or send out a public statement confirming that she was dating some guy or got a new friend (of any sex) either.

And in ANY case, whether they're together or not (which, for the record, I absolutely think they are), they do seem very happy and everything has just gotten better for both Lindsay Lohan's career and her overall behaviour, so I can't see that the relationship is bad in any way. I have high hopes for the future of LindSam and hope they stay on track in every way. :o)

Feelin' the love,
- GayGirl

P.S. If they are a couple that doesn't even mean Lindsay views herself as a lesbian, and therefore asking her to "come out" is a bit much. Maybe they just fell in love and are happy together, and they certainly aren't hiding how happy they are. Can't we just appreciate that? I can. And I do.

Take me to the Titty Bar!

"It gets a little crowded at the bar." was Brad Pitt's choice of words for pointing out Angelina Jolie's difficulty in trying to breastfeed the couple's newborn twins simultaneously (as quoted in PEOPLE magazine's article, which featured the first pictures of the twins and the entire Jolie-Pitt family).

That quote even made it to the Top 10 Best Celeb quotes of the week - and with good reason. When I read that quote all I could think was "Take me to the Titty Bar"... but at my age that's for completely different reasons.
Hmm, maybe I should just get the T-shirt! ;o)
- GayGirl

There can be only one - Part II

P.S. Just to spare you the possibility of any further embarrassment, here's a few other people that need no last name for us (the initiated) to know who we're refering to: Barbra (Streisand), Judy (Garland), Liza (Minelli), Bette (Midler)... I know, I know, sometimes I do seem more like a gay MAN than GayGirl, but I'm just a good allround gay, I guess. ;o)
Hmm, and I feel like I'm forgetting quite a few... I'll get back to you on that.

- GayGirl

There can be only one

No, I'm not talking about The Highlander (though I admit, I do like the movie and ADORE the song "Who wants to live forever" by Queen). I'm talking about Ellen, sooo...

If I say Ellen, you say "Which one?"... Then you truly are among the uninitiated! But not to fear, I will teach you. There is only one Ellen... Ellen DeGeneres!

She was willing to throw herself out there. She may not have been a HUGE star back then, but she did have her own hit show, came out in a MAJOR way and she paved the way for many. She also took the heat and backlash (perfectly illustrated in her show "The Beginning", which is a MUST-SEE and should be in your collection).

I remember being a wee GayGirl. Probably not really knowing I was gay, but definitely knowing I was different - and that I felt more for the women in the movies than the men. Or rather, I wanted to be the leading man. No, not actually really BE him, but in order to get the leading lady. ;o)

Anyway, I watched "Ellen" (the original sitcom), before she came out, and immediately felt a connection to this hysterically funny woman, who nearly made me pee in my pants from laughing... several times. I pretty much knew I was "a Gay", when Ellen did come out, but it still made a huge impact on me. This was also because it was around the time I had started searching for gay movies and books, and here she was just being gay EVERYWHERE, and suddenly I didn't have to look for it anymore. Also, it was around the time I had my first girlfriend, and so in every way, being gay had just become much more "real" somehow.

In any case, I ADORE Ellen... and like Elvis, Madonna og Cher, there is NO need for the last name (okay, only the first one actually uses a last name, but still). If I mean another Ellen, then I'll be sure to include that Ellen's last name, m'kay?!

Now... Go watch Ellen's talkshow - you may even catch a glimpse of the wonderful Portia de Rossi. ;o)

- GayGirl

I never thought I'd say this...

Paris Hilton ROCKS!!!
If you haven't seen the new video, where Paris announces she's accepting "McCain's nomination of her", then you are surely missing out. This video is just SO tongue-in-cheek and simply perfect at making truly excellent points. Lordy, I suddenly have a new respect for Paris Hilton - and I've always accepted that she's a master of promoting herself, which is to be admired, but this takes her to a new level.

Wanna see what all the fuss is about, then just follow this link directly to the video:
http://www.funnyordie.com/videos/64ad536a6d

You GO, girl!

Much respect,
- GayGirl

We are family... The Jolie-Pitt twins

Finally, the first pictures of the Jolie-Pitt twins were released on Sunday, and they really do look adorable:

Image source: GossipBoulevard.com

Welcome to the world (and the worldwide web), little Vivienne Marcheline and Knox Leon. :o)
- GayGirl

He's the man!

I LOVE my Advocate.com newsletter, because unlike the regular news, there's often something good and uplifting among these news - of course, it's not like reading a fairytale, since there's plenty of hate crime, homophobia and right wing fanatics that love to speak their mind, but still.


Today my "That's what I've been saying all along"-moment came, when reading this teaser in the Advocate news update:

"An openly gay man equally successful at playing a prime-time pussy hound and securing major endorsement deals, Neil Patrick Harris is doing just what closeted actors and their minders have called impossible."

It is so strange how this has gone under the rader for so long, which is why I am loving this article featured on Out.com

Happy gay greeting,
- GayGirl

Life is good

Today is a good day. The weather is amazing and I'm working from home, so I took our dog out for a walk and just enjoyed the weather. It's always so quiet outside in the middle of the day compared to the usual morning og afternoon traffic, when I go to the office. Actually, I don't work from home much, but we do have the option and on a day like this, it's just perfect. You can sit outside while working, take a break and walk the dog or enjoy a refreshing beverage (no, not alcohol... I'm working remember) outside. Oh, I should probably explain that I work with marketing and in particular online activities, which can be done from anywhere with a laptop and access to the Internet really, so you gotta love that. ;o)

Oops, got a bit sidetracked there. My point (and I do have one) was simply that I love the summer and the sunshine to the point where I can always take more. I don't need it to end or complain that it's too hot - just drink water and stay in the shade and you'll be fine. That's how I see it anyway.

Anyway, just wanted to share that... I am a summerchild for sure. Maybe it's because I was born in August and just thrive on sunshine and warmth - oh yeah, I'm a Leo and damn proud of it, but we'll get to that.

Sunny smiles,
- GayGirl

She-Hulk?

Okay, this might be pretty geeky - or actually, if I was geeky enough, I would already know this. In ANY case... I just now found out that there is a She-Hulk!!!

So obviously, the correct answer to my "Superhero" question should be "She-Hulk" instead of just "Hulk". And she's pretty hot and everything, so instead of being a big green giant, I am now a really foxy superhero... Woohoo, who knew?! ;o)

- GayGirl

Which superhero would you be?

No doubt at all about this one: The incredible Hulk!
As nice and reasonable as I can be under normal circumstances, I do have a temper and while I would never harm someone unless I absolutely had to, I FEEL like the Hulk: "Hulk smash". First of all, don't get me mad... you wouldn't like me when I'm mad. Now, I can get irritated by stupid people blocking an ail in the supermarket or people driving like idiots during rush hour, but I don't get mad. No, in-just and just plain cold and evil people THAT makes me mad. If someone hurts umm, let's say a puppy - just to really get my juices flowing - then I would be ready to physically tear that person apart. I would have no fear in approaching the idiot in question, cause he (or she, though statistically it's men that cause the most physical trauma to other beings) is obviously a coward and in any case, I switch into complete psycho mode and you would have to knock me out stone cold to stop me.

Hear the brut... feel the brut... I... AM... GAYWOLF! Oops, no, that's another story. But yes, I would be The Hulk. Angry and unstoppable... And if anyone dares to say the Hulk isn't a superhero, then please, enlighten me as to what the definition of a superhero is; An alien, like our dear friend Superman... or someone, who has been bitten by a mutated spider and voila, he becomes Spiderman. How is that different, from Bruce Banner being in an accident with gamma radiation and "poof" (okay, not the most masculine choice of word) he becomes the incredible Hulk. Hulk is a Superhero. Period...
I said "period", bitches.

'Till next time... Be good!
- "Miss Green Eyes" aka GayGirl

Don't call me crazy... I'm just a little nuts!

Okay, so let's get this thing going and start with an introduction:

I am GayGirl and I promise to always tell it like it is, call 'em like I see 'em and be fair and just. Though of course this IS my blog and I do not promise to be objective in all matters. I am after all "a Gay" and know plenty about people not being objective, so I won't claim that I am completely unbiased. That would just be crazy, and I'm not crazy... Just a little nuts. Peanuts maybe or actually a BIT more on the wacky side, so let's call me a Cashew. I shall return with more and vow to speak the truth and nothing but the truth... As I see it. ;o)

TTFN (that's "Ta Ta For Now" for the truly uninitiated).

- GayGirl

P.S. Oh yeah, that's right, I'll say it again for emphasis: I am gay... a homosexual individual of the female persuasion. So if you can't handle it, then this ain't the blog for you, m'kay?!