That's right, I said it!

Jillian Michaels homophobic? I'd say so!

2011-08-21T07:28:00.000-07:00

I spy with my queer eye... Someone not appreciating us. And I don't like it!

I love it when celebrities show the LGBT community some love and appreciation. Fortunately, most celebrities have realized that this doesn't make them gay by association - though it does often make us wish they were. It's all flattery in its purest form really. And they seem to understand this, so it's a win-win situation.

The problem I have with a lot of bi or gay (male or female) celebrities is when they seem to steer away from the LGBT press and even just commenting on relevant issues and campaigns in relation to the LGBT community. I mean, when asked point blank, you should be able to say something intelligent - or just voice your opinion, however intelligent it may (or may not) be.

Someone like Ellen DeGeneres - whom I ADORE - still hasn't done an interview of any kind with AfterEllen.com, though they have tried to encourage this many times (they've written about this in a very positive way a few times). But she certainly doesn't hold back or refuse to comment, when asked about LGBT issues. She has done a lot of good, and she's not the type of celebrity I'm talking about here.

Total power couple. Just by existing and being out and proud, they do more than any campaign could aspire to!

But lately, someone who has publicly stated that she is open to relationships with both men and women - though certainly not to a LGBT media, what an awful thought - pretty much just dissed AfterEllen.com at a TV convention: Jillian Michaels. She's someone I've personally thought pretty highly of for a long time - and endorsed through buying what she's selling. Literally. But this time, I think her homophobic actions (that's right, I said it) have gone too far.

Let's set the scene, shall we? This is what she said to Ladies Home Journal in January 2010:

“Let’s just say I believe in healthy love,” Michaels tells writer Judith Newman. “If I fall in love with a woman, that’s awesome. If I fall in love with a man, that’s awesome. As long as you fall in love … It’s like organic food. I only eat healthy food, and I only want healthy love!”

So, why is it she had this reaction, when AfterEllen wanted to interview her at a public press event in August 2011:

"I introduced myself, as I usually do, as being from AfterEllen.com. Jillian put her hand up and said "Oh no, sorry" and turned to her publicist, pulling her away and adding, "I don't need that." Dissed! She doesn't need press about her sportswear line?" (read more over at AfterEllen)

WTF? Here's this person, on a show (several shows actually) helping people make the most of their lives by getting their act together and getting healthy. Often this involves dealing with their emotional problems, which is something I can relate very easily to in regards to being gay and having weight issues. Practice what you preach, would ya? What kind of role model are you for the young gay teens? You can't deny the big problems this group is facing. I mean, pretty much everyone who's anyone - and has a heart - has done something for the "It gets better"-project, but here this woman is, saying "I don't need that".

What exactly is it she doesn't need? Our money, the publicity we garner for her or just her overall career?!

I mean, just about everyone else AfterEllen approaches, as part of the press at various events, are more than happy to give interviews and just bask in our love and adoration for them. And why wouldn't they. We - the LGBT people, and lesbians in particular - are among THE most loyal fan base you could possibly wish for. Once you're "in" with us, you need to REALLY fuck up royally before we give up on you. And even then, we're a pretty forgiving bunch. I mean, just check out the AfterEllen and AfterElton hot 100 lists, and it's clear that we hang on to our favorites. Even after their shows (or even careers) have ended!

But what has irked me about Jillian Michaels for a while is the fact that she has absolutely NO problem talking about past boyfriends - here's an example from a radio show, accompanied by a few pictures

I had a boyfriend once too, and look at me now: Gay as a rainbow!

Anyway, this clearly tells me that she's fine about sharing private things. As long as these things portray a person who isn't gay. And puh-lease, I have never encountered a more gay-acting person. Usually, you're talking about gay people acting straight, but in this case, we have someone, who has said she is bi, but refuses to talk about anything but her straight action, while being butch to the core.

Maybe they share the same publicist?

Oh, and for the record, I don't blame Kristen in ANY way, for not talking about her sexuality. Either way. Let me be clear on this: I have previously talked about Stewart’s publicists and production companies fighting like HELL to make her look straight. She herself has been pretty much quiet on it, and though I believe visibility is important, I certainly prefer this method as opposed to Jillian Michaels' tricks.

Jillian Michaels at an HRC event - I haven't given up on her yet. Not completely!

I'm fine with people trying not to be political. I don't quite understand it, but if you're not a fighter by nature, then so be it. I wouldn't exactly say that Jillian Michaels isn't a fighter though, so...

Anyway, I found this quote the other day and must admit, I think it fits perfectly:

"It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not." - Andre Gide

Gaying it forward, one post at a time! ;o)
- GG

P.S. AfterEllen.com has touched on the subject of The Biggest Losers' trainers’ sexuality before, since it seems they're actively trying to keep them in the closet - click here for the article - but still, you make your own choices and face the impact of them. Good and bad.

Trailer: "Kyss Mig"... I cannot wait!

2011-05-14T04:25:00.000-07:00

I just stumbled across this trailer on YouTube (again, YouTube bumming really does bring so much good even if it's insanely time consuming).

It's a Swedish movie, which will open this summer (at least in Sweden according to the trailer), and it looks pretty mainstream. One of the major supporting actresses from the Stieg Larsson "Millenium"-trilogy movies also have a supporting - and seemingly AWESOME - role in this movie.

FYI: Fun little tidbit. The title is listed as "Kiss Myg", which is an error made by one person and repeated all over the glorious Internet.
The title is actually "Kyss Mig" which translates to "Kiss Me" whereas the word "myg" litterally means "mosquito" in Swedish. Yeah, I understand Swedish and speak a bit as well. I'm Scandinavian and most of us can understand all Scandinavian languages. Pretty cool and quite handy actually. :o)

Anyway, you MUST watch this trailer - it looks sort of like a new spin on the "Imagine You & Me" storyline, which means I can't help but love it:

Oh, and Robyn's song "With Every Heartbeat" is used in the trailer. One of my all time favorite songs (saw Robyn in concert this past winter, and she is simply amazing).

*UPDATE* The international title for the movie is "With Every Heartbeat", which makes the Robyn song a perfect match. Just as it was the case with another lesbian themed Swedish movie hit and Robyn-made theme song: "Show Me Love".

Hmm, think I might just have to visit Sweden for a day or two this summer - sometime after July 29th. Oh yes, I am so hooked. ;o)

Hope you enjoy!
- GG

Welcome to the family

2011-04-21T03:57:00.000-07:00

I've always thought she is all kinds of brilliant (and I love her tattoos), and even if I'll never really understand her relationship with Marilyn Manson (though I have nothing against him and find his androgyny fascinating), I can certainly admire the fact that he has been dating some very strong and wonderful women. However, I am also happy she has moved on - it didn't seem like the best match for her, since she is too big a personality to be reduced to "Marilyn Manson's girlfriend", which often happens because - of the two - he would always be the most extreme and different.

In any case... my point is this: I don't know that she was ever really "in", but now she is definitely "out", and even though it surprises only a few (I actually thought it was common knowledge and that she had spoken of this before), it's still great when someone officially and without a hint of drama comes out, so I'd still want to take this opportunity to officially welcome Evan Rachel Wood to the LGBT family.

We're very happy to have you!

- Gaygirl

Quick and dirty review: ELENA UNDONE

2011-03-20T05:35:00.000-07:00

I'd heard A LOT about this movie before it even hit the festival circuit. This was, of course, due to the much hyped "longest kiss in the history of cinema", which was used for publicity and quite a good PR job, really. However, when I saw part of this much hyped kiss on YouTube... well, I felt... not all that much!

For me, it rarely works to just have women jump on each other and start kissing. I mean, I don't exactly mind - I am, after all, only human AND gay. And for the purpose of an intense short film (or even a music video), it can work just fine to see an intense kiss very quickly, but personally, I need to experience the love and the passion evolve, before I witness the result of this.

And all the little things leading up to this are just as great: the brushing of hands, by accident, the longing gazes that can't be broken. You know, all that sappy romantic and passionate stuff. I suppose the two keywords here are: Love and passion! It makes it a thousand times more intense, and is the reason why Naomily was such a success - and why it is so insanely missed by me and many, MANY others - and the same goes for "Loving Annabelle" and "Imagine Me & You". I love them both and the latter is one of my absolute favorite movies!

But, as per usual, I'm getting off track. Because my point is that while the initial clip from the kissing scene didn't do much for me, then the trailer started pulling at the heart (and passion) strings, so I decided that I needed to watch this movie sooner rather than later - or actually, Wifey helped make this decision, since we both got the warm and fuzzy "I NEED MORE!" feeling from watching the trailer:

So we ordered the movie on good ol' fashioned DVD, and received it a few days later. We watched it that very same night, and... WOW! While the first clip of the kiss was "meh", and the trailer was "Oooh", then the movie was simply WOW.

The full story of the movie finally delivered all the missing pieces, and you get that evolution of the relationship, which means the looong kiss is suddenly working wonders and makes perfect sense. You understand that they don't want to stop. You recognize that feeling of not wanting to stop. In part, perhaps, it's the fear that if you stop for even a second, maybe reason will take over and it will end completely.

No matter what you think you know about this movie, you should... no, you NEED to do yourself the favor of watching this movie.

Enjoy,
- GG

It's okay if you're not gay

2011-03-04T01:52:00.000-08:00

Yes, I am finally back. I've had so very many things to say, but not enough time to share those things - at least not as in depth as I'd like to. And I'm really not good at doing things half-assed.
Anyway, here I am, still gay (but of course) and that's okay. But it's also okay if you're NOT gay. See, I've been accused of thinking everybody's gay. You've probably been met with the line "Oh, you people..." because really, it not about YOU, and you might as well realize that at any given time, the things you say and do, reflect on all gay people. Anyway, the line is "Oh, you people think everyone is gay!" And if you haven't heard it yet, then just wait for it. It will happen. A couple of years ago, this is definitely the words you would've heard, if you'd dare imply that Portia de Rossi was gay - and we all know how Mrs. DeGeneres identifies now, don't we?! Yes, I am feeling smug about that one. Very!

But really, I don't think everyone is gay. Not at all. However, I would like to shoot this back "Oh, you straight people, think no one is gay!" And this is something that has bothered me for a while and now I have a very current example where this is extremely evident: Pretty Little Liars!

Oh, I LOVE the show... Really, I'm addicted to it! Just like millions of other people. And like the rest of "my people", I love seeing a gay character, Emily Fields (the girl resting on the red velvet chaise with the most seductive smile in the picture below, played by the gorgeous Shay Mitchell), completely out and proud and so very sure of who she is.

This is amazing and a very new thing in television. Particularly in teen shows. And where the girl is drop dead gorgeous. I mean, not a single episode has gone by - since she came out and said she was gay - where she hasn't said this out loud again and/or kissed a girl. There is no doubt that this girl is gay, because she has no doubt that she's gay. And I love it!

But if you look at the comments regarding who Emily should be with - i.e. when the producers ask this question in the official Facebook group and give the choices Paige or Maya - then the name "Toby" continues to come up. Umm, hallo, she's GAY! And yes, we, the gay people, want Spencer to find a nice girl as well, and we joke (and hope and dream) about this, but we don't seriously think or believe this is an actual option. People DO however seem to think Toby (a guy) is a possible love interest for Emily (a gay girl). Why is that? To quote a recent episode of US Skins "What don't you get about being a lesbian?" You would think that even if the words aren't sinking in, then the actions should. And there's been quite a bit of action - enjoy:

Even the producers know people still think of Emily as an "open sexuality" girl, so they include Toby as an option when asking who the viewers want to see Emily with. This irked me at first, but then I realized they just want to know how many are hanging on to this idea of Toby and Emily. And I understand, respect and accept that. Hell, I want to know the answer to that one as well.

My point - and once again, I do have one - is simply this: Why is it that being gay is all too often perceived as a temporary feeling, a fleeting emotion or "a phase"? But being straight, on the other hand, is considered the constant. The sexuality that we are all born with and so this is the starting point and therefor also the place you return to when you're done experimenting. People can marry a person of the same-sex and still, you hear their sexuality questioned. Fine, being with someone of the same sex might not make the person gay, but it certainly DOES mean they're not straight. A person married to someone of the opposite sex however, is always perceived as being straight. But really, they might as well be bisexual, if we go by the standard applied to same-sex couples.

If you're of the belief that we all have a fluid sexuality and are essentially bisexual at birth and have this as the origin, then that's fine by me. I can certainly accept this notion though I have found my place in the spectrum and know that I have "floated" to the gay end of the sexuality pool. And look, right next to me is Emily Fields... kissing a girl and saying "I'm gay". And that makes me proud!

Also, the vast majority of people taking ABCfamily's poll on Emily's love interest is agreeing with me. And that just thrills me to pieces:

Have a great weekend! :o)
- GG

Wrong in all the right ways

2010-11-21T03:14:00.000-08:00

I am falling completely in love with P!NK's new single 'Raise your glass' and especially the video for this song. It really is an anthem for everyone who's different and proud of it. I've inserted the video here and just underneath is the chorus of the song - it's stuck in my brain these days, so I had to share:

P!nk - Raise Your Glass (Official Music Video)

So raise your glass if you are wrong
In all the right ways, all my underdogs
We will never be never be anything but loud
And nitty gritty dirty little freaks
Won’t you come on and come on and raise your glass
Just come on and come on and raise your glass

And then this past week Pink also announced that she's pregnant - which of course happened on The Ellen's show (you know the deal, she is "The Ellen" to me, but yes, it was the Ellen DeGeneres). Pink has been on the show many times and Ellen often plays Pink's songs. Generally, both Pink and Ellen speak very highly of each other and seem to have mutial admiration, so it was an obvious choice, but a great one none the less.

Anyway, it's great that Pink is pregnant and I'm sure she'll be a great mom, but - on a more selfish note - this means we won't get to see her on tour the next couple of years *very sad face*
But what is even more erking to me right now, is that fact that her new video suddenly made me realize that she would've been a PERFECT Lisbeth Salander for the US remake of 'The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo'. I mean, just look: piercings, mohawk, attitude...

I know Rooney Mara got the part and production has started, but Pink could've given the role the same fierce and believable attitude that Noomi Rapace gave it. I will keep my mind open about Rooney - especially since David Fincher is directing the remake - but Noomi was beyond amazing and will always be Lisbeth Salander to me.

For the record, I have seen Rapace in other roles, and she is always amazing. And according to rumors, she's in talks to star in the 'Alien' prequel, and there's no doubt she will have some equally brilliant roles in her future. And she can be just as cute and beautiful as she is fierce and talented.

Voice of Alice in Paranormal Activity 2?

2010-10-22T01:59:00.000-07:00

OH.MY.GOD. I just went to see "Paranormal Activity 2" and for the longest time, I could swear Leisha Hailey (Alice on The L Word, for those who think the name sound familiar, but can't quite place it, LOL) was in the movie. Only her voice though!

Leisha Hailey

I am telling you, the teenage girl in this movie sounded SO much like Leisha that it was freaking me out. Leisha Hailey has a pretty distinct voice, but this girl's voice was a deadringer. She did a good job and looks nothing like Leisha Hailey, but you don't see her at first. Anyway, if you've seen this movie or you do go see it, then please leave a comment here and let me know if I'm the only one hearing Leisha Hailey/Alice Pieszecki's voice.

Girl with Leisha Hailey's voice

And if you remotely liked the first "Paranormal Activity" you really need to watch the sequel - which is actually a prequel, and I recommend watching the first one (again) before going to see this movie. It was pretty damn awesome!

Fun gay fact: as soon as the movie ended, I did a Google search for "Paranormal Activity 2 + Leisha Hailey" and while nothing came up about her being in this movie, she DOES have a horror movie coming out. She plays straight, but is the wife of a true gay guy icon: Gale Harold! As in Brian Kinney from Queer As Folk. The movie is called "Fertile Ground". See, sometimes two gay icons CAN make a straight couple good. Even when one of the actors are gay IRL - you hear that, Newsweek? I don't think Gale Harold is gay, though I would love to have him on our team. And he's great as a straight ally, in any case. And brilliant at acting gay. ;o)

Have a GREAT Friday... and go listen to/for Leisha Hailey's voice, would you? ;o)

- GayGirl

For your viewing pleasure

2010-10-19T23:25:00.000-07:00

Okay, so I finally found the FULL scene with Kristen and Dakota from "The Runaways". The much hyped kiss is actually only the beginning and not only is there an additional kiss, there is also a lot that goes on just outside the frame... which means you get to use your imagination. Always a dangerous thing. Oh yeah, I like it!

You're welcome! :o)
- GG

Can you see a (gay) patern?

2010-10-13T10:11:00.000-07:00

Here is the all time Top 20 "search keywords" that have lead people to my blog. Can you spot the "hidden" patern?

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And then something happens... a new couple of "maybe-gay, definitely close" girls enter into the mix. A little bit, anyway, LOL

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But still, good ol' Kstew is the star here. Also, I just saw 'The Runaways' the other day - I highly recommend it, by the way, just because it's brilliant - and I was intrigued by the fact that the PR machine hyped "the kiss" (even though it's more than one) with Dakota Fanning, when Miss Stewart actually kisses quite a few ladies in this movie.

Then again, maybe their obvious flirtatous manor during interviews just made it all the more interesting - case in point in this video:

And while this bit could be used for publicity, there was no point in telling anyone about the other girl-on-girl action Kristen Stewart engaged in. And for the record, both Kristen and Dakota are truly great in this movie. So very natural... in every way. ;o)

I love rock n' roll,
- GG

Let your fingers do the talking...

2010-10-12T00:20:00.000-07:00

Yeah, I'll admit it: That title was a total tease... but this game is pretty fun and addictive. Try it out and write your score in a comment. :o)

Happy hands,
- GG

Letter from a teen to her parents

2010-10-09T04:08:00.000-07:00

Dear Mom and Dad!

It is with great regret and sorrow that I must write to you. I had to run away with my new lover because I wanted to avoid a scene with you. I know that you still consider me a child, but I'm 17 years old and I know how to take care of myself.

I have found true love with Larry and he's just so sweet. But I am aware that you would never approve of him because of his piercings, tattoos and leather clothes, and because he is so much older than me. In addition, he has five children, his youngest is my age. And it's not just infatuation. I'm pregnant with twins and Larry says we will be very happy together. He lives in a trailer out in the forest, and he has plenty of firewood to last the winter.

We share so many dreams for the future. He says he'll buy a lot of clothes and shoes for me. And Larry loves children. All his children have different mothers, but he says that with me it's different. Mom and Dad, I know we will be together forever. Larry says that I'm more woman than the older women, he's been with. How cool is that?

Larry has also opened my eyes to marijuana and how it's not actually harmful. He's a businessman and grows his own hemp and sells it to support his family. And Larry is clever with money! Also, he swaps some of the hemp with the neighbors for cocaine and ecstasy. The other occupants of the forest are also businessmen.

In the meantime we will pray that science will find a cure for AIDS, so Larry can get better. But you don't have to worry about me, Mom and Dad, I am very happy! Someday I am sure we will come and visit you so that you can see your grandchildren and my stepchildren.

With love,
Your daughter Emily

P. S. Mom and Dad, none of the above is true. I'm at the movies with JJ and Naomi. I just wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than finding out your daughter is gay. Which I am and it’s not a phase!

Hugs and kisses - call me when it's safe for me to come home and you're ready to talk about it.

****

I never had to write a letter like this, but I figure it would've been a somewhat different approach to it. Just might work. Anyway, now I got to write the letter anyway and share it with you all.
The names are all fictional - and the keen reader probably noticed the little tribute to Skins and Naomily, LOL. ;o)

Have a gay day!
- GayGirl

5 bad habits

2010-09-18T03:12:00.000-07:00

Oh yes, I have bad habits, and while they can be annoying, good things often come from them. In other words, while I may need to watch these bad habits and keep them in check, there isn't necessarily a reason to drop them...like a bad habit. ;o)

1) I need to control my very spontaneous and intense happiness when a song comes on the radio, and Wifey is driving the car.
It has happened a few times (okay, maybe a few more than what most people would consider "few") and Wifey's heart is usually in her throat, because she thinks she's about to hit something or someone with the car. Apparently my "OH!" while jumping in the seat next to her can be confusing when we turning out onto the highway. My bad. But it certainly makes sure she's completely awake and aware - even more so than she would normally be. You're welcome, babe!

2) I bite my nails. Not all the time and not intensely, but I do bite my nails. Often it's if I'm either stressed out about something, or I'm watching a scary/interesting movie or reading a book, and I'm not aware of it at all really.

The really bad thing about this is the fact that I cannot stand the sound of other people biting their nails. I mean, I REALLY can't stand it. The hairs on the back of my neck stand, I grind my teeth and my pulse increases dramatically, while I fight the urge to yell "Would you STOP that, you psychotic freak!" I'm sure I look quite psychotic, when I try to restrain myself, and I've never actually verbally - or otherwise - attacked someone. Wifey is the only person who knows how much I detest the sound, so she's always aware which really calms me. However, she's also the one who likes to point out - a bit too much - when I'm biting my nails. But hey, as a gay girl, I can also point out to her that usually she's very happy I don't have long nails. Touché!

Not a gay girl...

3) Procrastination! Oh yes, it's a bitch... YouTube and Google, I blame thee! However, I also love thee. A LOT! And while procrastination is a bad and stressful thing in the long run, I have also stumbled across a lot of brilliant things in my attempts to distract myself from whatever task I actually had at hand and should be getting into.
That's how I have found several brilliant shows and movies, but also, I've found websites and people that have come to be a wonderful part of my day and overall joy in life. So really, it can't be all that bad. And it's how I found out about the TV shows "Mistresses", "Skins", "Los Hombres de Paco", "Las Aparicio", "Pretty Little Liars", "Glee" and many more. Shows that I had heard of, but didn't know to watch and probably wouldn't have chosen to watch, since I already have a billion other shows I like to watch.

4) I watch a lot of TV. I have learned SO much from it; Languages, knowledge about history, biology, people, music and life. So to sum it up, I watch a lot of TV. Always have, always will. I heart TV. Period.

I really do!

5) I also love movies and music and spend obscene amounts of time watching, listening and going to the Movie Theater or concerts whenever possible and relevant. But my bad habit is that I don't read enough books. And in that respect, the gay internet really hasn't helped me much, because it is taking a lot of time away from reading more books. But I LOVE the gay internet, so I guess I'll just have to find time elsewhere. Maybe I should just give up sleeping? Then again, I'm going on about six hours a night as it is. I love to stay up late and get up early... make the most of every day. I just love life and all there is to experience too much, I suppose. And that's hardly a bad thing!

I wish you all a beautiful weekend.
- GG

I miss Jack... and Karen

2010-09-05T03:14:00.000-07:00

I apologize for the lack of updates, but not only has work been crazy - wonderful to take some time off during the summer, but then when you get back to work it seems you pay for it ten fold - I also have a million projects I'm working on.

Unfortunately this blog is a "Want to do" and not "Need to do" (as in I get paid for it), and so it suffers... I am sorry for this, but I never do forget my blog or those sweet people that send me comments and encouragement. So this quick impromptu post is for you all.

Just now - I mean two minutes ago - a Madonna song (Express Yourself, for those wondering) stopped abruptly and right in the middle. Wifey and I are both working on various projects, and the music is playing from her computer, so she quickly blurted out "I didn't do anything!" just as I started going "NO ONE interrupts the queen of...." and then I realized I was using one of Jack's ("Will and Grace") lines so I quickly went to my dear friend YouTube and found the clip. Here you go:

Also, just for good measure, here's a little "Modern Family" - just to keep in mind that while I miss Jack and Karen (and also Will and Grace, though the two supporting characters were the REAL stars to me), there are some great new shows out there as well:

Don't be a stranger... I'll try not to be either. ;o)

- GG

15 random things (about me)

2010-08-13T00:08:00.000-07:00

1. I absolutely adore the smell (and taste) and nectarines

2. When eating a nectarine while Wifey is around, I love to look at her, smirk and quote the line "I could eat a peach for hours" (from 'Face/Off')

3. You know when you wake up from a wonderful dream and you try going back to sleep, because you're trying to get back to that dream? That's how I feel about Wifey. Whenever we're apart - even if we're just at work - it feels like I'm always trying to get back to her (I know *gag* super corny, but true)

4. I rarely sleep naked... It just makes me feel umm naked, in every way (and cold even during a heat wave)

5. Wifey always sleeps naked (she's always very warm). And I love it!

6. I was once a vegetarian for a year and a half. The main reason I'm not a vegetarian now is that all the people I love are extremely carnivorous, and it feels like I would burden them, so I'm a part time pescetarian now (try to get away with just eating fish, but I also still eat meat).

7. I have one tattoo now, but will have two by the end of today (Friday the 13th... I know, what was I thinking?! And I'm pretty superstitious). Both placed from the hip and up [out of plain sight].

8. My favorite perfumes are Tommy Girl (Tommy Hilfiger) for myself and Happy (Clinique) for Wifey.

9. I used to have OCD pretty badly, but now I just have very few quirky "habits" left.

10. I like lemons... A LOT. I can eat and enjoy sour foods more than anyone else I know.

11. I also love spicy, sweet and savoury things. Basically I love food and I don't mind strong/bold flavors!

12. I have no doubt that I could kill a person, if they physically (seriously) harmed someone I love - or if the victim was a child, an animal or anyone else who couldn't fight back.

13. I couldn't hurt an animal unless another life depended on it.

14. More than anything, I despise injustice, unfairness, intolerance and lies. I believe these things are the root of all evil - from broken hearts and dreams to world wars.

15. I believe in love and equality - we are all created equal and have the same right to life, love, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

What's in a name?

2010-08-01T09:37:00.000-07:00

"GayGirll2000" How did I come up with that name?

Well, I never really use the word "lesbian". I mean, I do use it every now and then, but I define myself as "gay" and not "lesbian". I have no problem with the L word, but many years back - more than a decade, which is just scary to think about, LOL - when I came out, I really wasn't very happy with the word and it seemed like only certain homosexual women (angry, older, more butch and man hating) called themselves "Lesbians", but I was happy, young - still am, darn it - not butch, but not really super femine either, and I know many men that I think are just wonderful (gay and straight), so I went with the word that happy Ellen DeGeneres chose, when she proudly proclaimed "Yep, I'm gay!".

Me too!
Anyway, when you need to choose your name online, it seems other people have always had the same thought as you, so of course you need to find a new name, and so I thought to myself... What's gay? What's cool? Funny? Sounds good? What works that I can remember and identify with? And then it hit me...

Oh yeah, baby... it's like a new and improved version - or a cool robot, and I'm a bit geeky like that. GayGirl2000... Thank you, Jack!

- GG

P.S. I've lost a good 5 pounds so far, and things are going really good - except I've just been wined and dined for three days in a row. ;o) My parents love to take out me and my Wifey... We really are just foodies, and it is our summer vacation these days.
Besides, Wifey's got the greatest metabolism and can eat like a construction worker, while maintaining the look of a swimsuit model (I know, the world is unfair, but at least she's mine, so I'm not complaining... much), so my parents really enjoy taking us out for dinner. People always love guests with a good appetite. Anyway, I'm staying on board with the Jillian Michaels workouts and am back on track on the food/calorie intake now as well.

Losing it...

2010-07-22T03:19:00.000-07:00

So, I'm three days into my pursuit for this:

Oh yeah, any excuse to show off that body - even if it's not mine yet. Things are going great and I'm staying right on target. The truth is that I know I can do these sort of things, if I just put my mind to it and convince myself that I have decided that this is something I MUST do. Of course, this goes for everyone, but when you've been seriously OCD challenged like I have, then there's still a little hint of that left that can help you along. I have yet to meet someone who's battled with OCD that have let go of it 100%. You can call it little neuroses or what have you, but if you've ever been through the flicking lights on and off, or checking if a door is locked 8 times, then you know what's triggering you. Well, maybe not what exactly the trigger is (other than stress in some form probably), but you understand the mecanics of it.

ANYWAY, for me, I'm over my OCD, but have a few things that I hang on to - nothing people will notice, but more a matter of little things that people would call quirks, habbits, supperstition or what have you. These few things are what keeps it all balanced for me, and so I'm trying to now make it work for me by telling myself that I MUST eat healthy and work out. No, not to brainwash myself (well, maybe just a little bit) and I'm not on my way to an eating dissorder, but just to change my entire mindset.

I'm very aware of all the dangers when losing weight, and I've had my time with bulimia - to keep the weight I lost in a healthy weight off, and not to lose weight (not that it makes anything better) - and I'm not going back to any of my old unhealthy habbits. This is all about being healthy, and the truth is: When I was fighting with both OCD and bulimia in my teens, I realized that it was a lot of fear and stress, which in many ways was directly related to dealing with being gay (I know of MANY gay people who went through this same thing, which is a bit scary).

I've never had a problem with being gay, but I had a problem with the way I felt gay people were treated and perceived, which made me fight more for my place in the world - somehow my reasoning became that if I did everything right and was a "good girl" AND a "gay girl" then people would have to accept that being gay can be a good thing - I'm certainly VERY pleased with it.

Well, that was a right ramble there... but my point - and I do have one - is just to convey that I am right on track and even had a little meltdown yesterday - which is a good thing, because I do need to deal with the underlying issues of why I keep the extra 10-15 pounds on. I just had a good little cry, Wifey gave me space and knew when to reach out and then I got right back up. Okay, so having my period, which I admit makes my hormones run wild (Wifey would probably have a much more extreme way of explaining it), doesn't make this any better, so when I felt like I was losing control, I just had my little meltdown... And this time chocolate wasn't an option. ;o)

Keep on keepin' on,
- GayGirl

P.S. I'm not REALLY a control freak... I just don't like it when others take control - except when I do like it. I'm such a bottom sometimes, but that's another story all together. ;o)

Image of Sunday - and my inspiration

2010-07-18T10:38:00.000-07:00

This week is all about summer! My summer vacation starts this week, but Wifey still has another week of work, so I'm going to make the most of this week by doing some stuff around the house, work on learning Spanish and - this next part is actually my primary mission - I'm going to go ALL in and get a committed beginning to losing some weight and especially get in shape.

My inspiration - one of them anyway - is to get the body I want, which is pretty much like the one featured in my Image of Sunday (and this will be my wallpaper for at least a week)...:

Need I say that Wifey is also looking forward to when I can say "Mission Accomplished"? ;o)

I've joined the Jillian Michaels program (@ JillianMichaels.com), which I expect can help get my butt kicked into shape, and give me a good start. I've actually always thought very highly of her - love her no nonsense approach, and I believe that sometimes you do need to get beaten to the ground to realize you can make a decision to get back up and be better. And now that she's more open about her sexuality (bisexual from her comments so far), I feel good about choosing her to be my guide on this tour of HELL, which will no doubt leave me with a need to vent. That's why I plan on using this space right here, my blog, to get my thoughts and feelings out.

The best kiss

2010-07-11T02:41:00.000-07:00

I stumbled across this clip a little over a week ago, and I knew I simply had to showcase it on my blog as well - in fact, I even commented this on the post where I originally saw it here (thank you so much to Snow for sharing this clip the first time around (I've seen it a few places since, but you were the first).

Let's see who Kristen thinks is the better kisser - and could she possible look and sound more like Shane from The L Word, when she answers the question? You be the judge. Here we go:

I might as well reveal right now that my favorite part is the reaction of her publicist, which just screams volumes - and somehow helps confirm everything I've been saying in this blog on the subject for the past +year.

And speaking of the publicist, I didn't know who she was, when she first caught my eye in pictures of Kristen here, but my wonderful anonymous reader - who refered me to these pictures to begin with - has come to the rescue once again. AND she has more juicy intel this time around:

"The woman in the pictures with Kristen is her publicist, Ruth. According to Kristen fans, Ruth and Kristen have worked together for many years and that's why they are so "comfortable" with each other. Ok, fine, but then I would like them to explain this comment Kristen makes... http://www.hollywoodlife.com/2010/07/02/huh-kristen-stewart-says-rob-pattinson-not-her-top-pick-for-best-kisser-who-is/"

And THIS is what she said in the article - it's regarding her being nominated for "Best Kiss" at the MTV Awards with both Rob and Dakota:
“I would’ve been really proud if me and Dakota had won,” she said. She even had the acceptance speech planned if Dakota had been there: “I would’ve done the whole build-up that me and Rob did last year, and then just stopped and said, “‘This just doesn’t feel right. Dakota, where are you? That would have been so funny.”

Umm, yeah, that would have been VERY funny, and it would have been especially funny to see publicist Ruth tackle Dakota on her way to the stage to prevent it.

But all this talk of the kisses made me want to check out the actual kiss with Dakota - I've already seen her kisses with Rob Pattinson in the Twilight movies. Well, the only full length version of the kissing scene is of low quality, but you get the jist of it:

Now, of course I'm very biased, but I think Rob seems like a really and truly great friend to Kristen, but I don't see anything else there. Not even when they're acting, which is a bit sad - however, in Rob's defense, the heat is lacking on Kristen's part and not so much his.

Kristen and Dakota on the other hand...Well then, seems like the agressor role suits our girl a bit better, 'cause now I see some heat. Or maybe it's just because it feel more natural with Dakota. But I still see more passion when looking back at pictures of her and Nikki Reed... but maybe that's just me?!

What do you think?

- GG

Image of Sunday

2010-07-04T07:56:00.000-07:00

I may not be American, but I never pass on a chance to celebrate and have a little party – especially if it involves fireworks, which I just adore. Pretty colors that join the stars… that’s just beautiful.

Besides, 4th of July is Independence Day and since it celebrates Independence, I’m in! Actually, it celebrates the Declaration of Independence, which has some of the most powerful words that we should all live by every day.

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.

See, isn’t that a good thing to celebrate? Also, I always feel that as gay people (as a whole no matter where you live), we’re in a category of our own, where we often have to fight to be treated as equals, while living as independent individuals.

So whoever you are and wherever you live. Happy Independence day! Let’s celebrate it with a bang…. A pretty bang!

And this time the bonus is a song by a very independent, talented and amazing woman: Robyn with “Dancing on my own”, which is a fiercely independent song. I read an interview with her recently, where she stated that it really isn’t a sad song, since it’s about a girl who’s watching the person she wants dancing and kissing someone else, so she just continues to dance on her own instead of leaving and being defeated. Just notice these lyrics towards the end of the song:

So far away, but still so near
The lights go on, the music dies
But you don't see me, standing here
I just came to say goodbye

Also, Robyn is brilliant at not making her songs very gender specific, which I love. She just relates them to herself singing “I'm givin' it my all, but I'm not the girl you're takin' home - I keep dancin' on my own”, but who she sings to or about is always up to the listener.

Celebrating all week,
- GG

I'm coming out...

2010-07-02T01:20:00.000-07:00

I need to come out. No, not the gay part... that's pretty out there
already. ;o) In fact, I'm one of those people who - as far back as I can
remember - always said that the one thing I knew I wasn't was straight.
That's probably why I got this T-shirt the minute I saw it:

Yep, that sums me up. I knew that I liked women, but I was a bit more
uncertain about those of the male persuasion. So maybe I was bi, but I
certainly never thought I was (or could be or even wanted to be) straight. I did consider myself to be bisexual during my teens, while I was figuring it all out... But I only really found my heartbeat speeding up and slowing down at the same time for girls. And I'm a total Goldstar lesbian... LOL, so I wasn't really all THAT bi.

Anyway, turns out the only guys I like are A) Those that I love like friends and in a total brotherly way or B) The gay boys... cause I do love
them, and the only time during my bi-years that I got somewhat confused was by a wonderful gay guy. Probably because it was all very safe and he had a femine thing about him that I responded to.

In any case, turns out I'm just super gay and thrilled to bits about it. Oh yes, in these Pride times, I really am.

But this post has been a complete side-track from the REAL point - and as
always, I do have one... You just need to wait for it, when I think of other interesting and completely mindblowing things I need to share. Or maybe not all that mindblowing... But back to the point of this post: I need to come out... and admit to the world... I am... not... American. I'm European. Born here and have been a citizen for all my life.

I've not objected when a comment has assumed otherwise because Wifey and I both ADORE the US, have lived there for shorter or longer periods (shorter for me, a bit longer for Wifey) and we plan on living there eventually. Part time, anyway - I don't want to give up on Europe all together.

I love and protect the anonymity that this blog gives me, but at the same
time, I want to be honest. I'm out and proud in every other way, so why not this one? Though I'll keep the specifics to myself... let's just say that I'm from Western Europe and while I am bilingual - see, still a little bi - and working on becoming trilingual, when the Spanish kicks in, I'm not from an english speaking country. I speak two languages fluently, an additional three pretty well (used to be real good, but now I basically understand them while searching for words when I need to speak) and I want Spanish to be the third language that I speak fluently. And I appreciate all and any advice/help that any of you may be able to offer in regards to that.

Phew, that felt good to get out there... and now, I need a drink!

Citizen of the World,
- GG

P.S. If you suffered through this VERY long post with a sidetrack here and there, then we are now officially friends in the making, so drop me a line if you're so inclined. ;o)

Image of Sunday

2010-06-27T11:31:00.000-07:00

I had already decided on this image last week, but then I started doubting as I was seeing pictures from the various Pride Parades in countries around the world. However, I quickly realized that my choice is VERY gay and even has a clear rainbow theme, so I stuck with it.

My Image of Sunday and wallpaper for the week. GLEE:

However, I also have a bonus,which is actually much more important to me than the image this week. When I saw this video yesterday from the Mexico City Pride Parade, it was immediately clear that nothing else would do.

But first, the story behind it. You see, I am CRAZY about the new mexican soap "Las Aparicio", which has the best gay couple on TV right now. However, I can't see it, so I found it a few weeks ago, when I stumbled across a clip on YouTube and so I have been catching up by watching all the scenes while reading recaps. I highly recommed - and by "highly recommend" I mean you MUST do it - reading Ingrid Diaz' recaps, which are readily avaible at her website now, but she will also be doing recaps of the show for AfterEllen starting next week. This was announced this week in "Best.Lesbian.Week.Ever":

"Julia and Mariana finally did it on Las Aparicio (thanks for the tip, Betty!) The show's stars Erendira Ibarra (Mariana) and Liz Gallardo (Julia) will be at the Mexico City Pride Parade this Saturday. Check back next week for our recaps (starting with the first episode and running until we're current) by Ingrid Diaz."

So... of course, I now have to give you two bonus videos, since you also need a little teaser/taster of the show.

First the kiss at Mexico City Pride Parade - please note the "Legalize Gay" T-shirts (I REALLY need to get at least one of those)...:

And then of course, I should give you the scene, where they "finally did it"... but you need to get to that in your own time, and instead just start with the first kis between them (which is from the first episode, because YES, this show is just that awesome). Enjoy!

And like I said earlier, you really need to get on board for this show, so start reading those recaps and watching those videos. I promise you, it is well worth your time. ;o)

Also, I read this statement below very recently, and it is SO true after both "Chich Busca Chica", Pepa and Silvia (aka PepSi) of "Los Hombres de Paco" and now Julia and Mariana (aka Juliana) of "Las Aparicio" plus various other movies. (if you know who said this first, then please let me know and I will gladly spread that info as well)

SPANISH = the new language of lesbians!

Maybe that's why I am now kicking my quest for learning the language into high gear. I am listening to Spanish radio every day at work - plus I was already rooting for Spain as the winner of the soccer World Cup 2010, so I was on the right track. ;o)

Have a beautiful week,
- GayGirl

P.S. One more "Spanish is the new language of lesbians"-fact: Mexican soap actress Kenia Gazcón just came out of the closet this past week (hat tip @ AfterEllen via LesbiCanarias), and it would appear she's the first ever Mexican actress to publicly come out. Congratulations Kenia... and welcome! :o)

Image of Sunday

2010-06-20T02:40:00.000-07:00

It's so strange how a person, who's basically crude and obnoxious can make you laugh so damn hard. I suppose it's because Sue Sylvester always just speaks her mind and holds nothing back, which is sort of charming in her own way... Also, we all know she has a heart of gold and wants to push people to succeed (and thus make her a success as well, of course). Her entire persona is like performance art based on the song "I am what I am".

Here's your Image of Sunday and my desktop wallpaper for the next week:

Somehow this woman calling me a loser just inpires me to do better... Maybe that's also how "Sue C's it"? ;o)

Besides, she's played by Jane Lynch. Enough said! The woman has made a career out of playing ballsy, intelligent [often gay] women with the best one-liners.

So of course, the bonus for this week, is this little video she made with Electric Spoofaloo:

Have a funfilled week,
- GG

Remember when Kristen Stewart used to smile?

2010-06-19T03:58:00.000-07:00

I do... it looked a little something like this:

Anyway, that was then and this is now, so let's continue the follow up, I started recently. It's high time, I know... work has been crazy lately.

But here goes, and let's take some more recent pictures this time around. First of all there's the MTV Movie Awards 2010, where it was all about Kristen and Rob - for example the kiss that wasn't reinacted like it's standard for the winners of the "Best Kiss" award to always do.

As Kristen said "... to be perfectly honest with you it takes a lot of smoke and mirrors to make us look good at kissing!" We believe you, Kristen. But the flirting with an unknown (publicist, friend, girlfriend, whatever) in a moment out of the spotlight seemed to come very easily to you:

Thanks for the heads up left in a comment by an anonymous. You ROCK! :)

Right now there's also a lot of promotion for the Twilight Eclipse movie, but Nikki Reed has stated that she doesn't know where she's going to do promotion, since she's basically just put on a plane and flown to various places around the world:

"I'll be going to the U.K. premiere, I'm definitely going to London and New York. And some other things! They are shipping me off to some cities...I'll know when I get on the plane."

Read more here - this particular tidbit might catch your eye:

"... we chatted with N.R. for a bit about which female Twi babes she's been hanging with over the hiatus.

Hint: Her initials are K.S.:

"It's not like we all separate," Miss Reed 'fessed, looking yummy in a black Marc Jacobs dress with her hair pulled back. "We still see each other all the time. Elizabeth [Reaser] is here. Love her, she's the best person ever. And I was moving recently and Kristen [Stewart] was awesome enough to come and lift wardrobe racks and boxes."

No pictures of course... but that would just get them in trouble anyway. Looking all butch moving stuff around. HA! I can just see it now... the U-Haul would basically have been one big rainbow in terms of lesbian symbols, and it would've been only too easy to conclude that they were moving in together. They would have to have her and Rob and Taylor have a threesome in public to spin that kind of picture into something completely innocent and heterosexual.

Anyway, back on track - though I guess I was still on some kind of track! As far as the promotion tour, it sounds kinda unfair, that she's not even informed, so I'll give her a heads up: Look at the PR work K-Stew has got lined up for her, and you know where you WON'T be going...

Finally, this is not a "real" picture, since it's had a brief encounter with Photoshop, but wouldn't it just make everything so much easier for Kristen Stewart?

Thank to Fairy Attitude - both for the design (you KNOW I'm getting one of those T-shirts now) and the Photoshop version of that [already very] gay K-Stew image.

Have a great one...
- GG

Image of Sunday

2010-06-13T13:41:00.000-07:00

Today should've been an easy choice, but I was conflicted; Should I go with Glee since they had their season ending just recently OR should I go with True Blood since season 3 premieres today?

The result either way would be campy and very VERY gay... so really, I couldn't lose. And I decided that since we'll get plenty of True Blood in the weeks to come, but no more Glee, we need to celebrate the beginning of a new season and then have an excuse to look at Glee wallpapers once or twice (at least) during the summer. ;o)

But still there was another choice to be made: The new promotional shot OR the lips and tongue which symbolizes the show. Yet again, I realize that I can't lose either way and, in any case, I don't have to choose.

So here comes both - I'm starting out with the first one as my wallpaper and then I might switch it up during the week. I'm just a rebel that way!

... and the bonus version:

Have a great week...
- GG

Image of SUNday

2010-06-07T08:39:00.000-07:00

I realize it's not Sunday anymore and I do apologize... What can I say? The sun came out and so did the blender, and Sunday became SUN-day... and Frozen Margarita n' Daiquiri day. Yesterday's lunch literally consisted of margaritas, fresh strawberries and nachos. And then for dessert we had Strawberry daiquiris... and a nap in the sun. ;o)

All in all, a wonderful and beautiful day out in the sun - and I was tanning responsibly with ample amounts of high SPF and shade. Plus, being the doting wife, I made sure Wifey was always protected, so I lotioned her up... regularly. ;o) Oh, how I do love the sun, blue skies and drinks...

And in my drinks I only use the brands that support me, so I'm all about the Absolut... it's Absolutely fabulous - and gay! So this is my screensaver for the following week:

Bonus clip of the week is another very well-known brand talking to us:

Have a wonderful week,
- GG

Thursday Tribute: The pretty boys...

2010-06-03T00:38:00.000-07:00

I've always said that if I was a man, I'd still be gay... I just can't imagine not being gay. That's how gay I am, I guess! Also, I couldn't get Wifey if I were a man, so no point in being a straight man.

Anyway, that really wasn't my point. Wifey just IM'ed me a picture and asked if I could recognize the person, and at first I really couldn't. I'll spare you the guessing game and just tell you that it's Lance Bass.

And he is looking so damn pretty - which is a good thing in my book. What can I say, even as a gay girl I love my gay men!

But however pretty Lance looks in the above picture, he is only a shadow of the #1 Pretty Man in the world right now:

Yes, Adam Lambert! And he can be as gorgeous a woman...

... as he can be handsome man:

I can't help but think of the bumper sticker my mom bought the first time she went to San Francisco:

Take me down to Paradise City
Where the women are strong and the men are pretty

That pretty much sums up my idea of a perfect place! ;o)

- GG

Is Kristen Stewart gay? The follow-up (and one year anniversary post)

2010-06-01T04:13:00.000-07:00

Well, a lot has happened since my original post about the relationship between Kristen Stewart and Nikki Reed. A whole lot of nothing! If you’re to believe the unreal lack of pictures featuring them both… which of course, we know better than to do (you really need to click the image below for the details).

Sure, these two actresses are both part of the Twilight franchise, and to begin with they were the key elements of the promotion tour (along with Robert Pattinson and Tayor Lautner), but – as we all know by now – Nikki Reed disappeared after rumors and speculations regarding the nature of her relationship with Kristen Stewart became too intense. Rumors about Kristen and Rob or Kristen and Taylor however were fine and almost encouraged. The same goes for rumors about Nikki Reed and Kristen Stewart having had a falling out – the version in which it was due to them both being crazy about Rob seemed to be pushed the most.

However, if you dig just a little bit, then you will find it. No, not the dirt. Simply the truth.

My original post was from June 2009, which officially makes this the one year anniversary of that particular post – and let me tell you, I still get thousands of hits every single month on this posts and the majority of my visitors find it via search engines. Which search gives the most hits, you ask? Why it’s the simple and pure “Kristen Stewart gay” search… Apparently Summit Entertainment has in no way managed to convince people that she’s a Team Edward and/or Team Jacob grrl.

Let’s get started with the update, shall we?

Exhibit A:
While not being seen at any public events and only very few unofficial outings of any kind, here we see the two supposed “enemies” out and about in Vancouver in early September 2009.

Exhibit B:
A tiny excerpt from a November 2009 interview with Spin Magazine.

Q: What’s the most prized T-shirt in your collection?
A: [Friend and New Moon star] Kristen [Stewart] and I share a lot of clothes, so I wear a lot of Joan Jett shirts.

Uh huh… let’s just let that one stand alone, shall we?

Exhibit C:
While Nikki Reed and Kristen Stewart were nowhere near each other at the big November 16th 2009 grand opening of “Twilight: New Moon” in Hollywood, they were both there, but you'll only find picture of them with other cast members:

And for good measure, here is the undeniable proof that they were both there; Please note the fact that their wearing the dresses from the above images and also, pay attention to the pink "Kristen is the shiznit!" t-shirt in the background:

However, three days later on November 19th at the New York premiere, Nikki and Kristen were seen in official pictures together for the first time in a very long time:

I’m sure someone got fired for letting that happen, but what can you do? Maybe Kristen weren’t supposed to arrive at the same time since she's wearing a long trench coat while Nikki is sporting a red carpet dress -seems a bit odd. Also, Kristen does have a very smug look about her - as if she just got away with something. And if the trench coat reasoning should be that it was her cold, then it got warmer later on, when the dress was in fact revealed later and looked like this:

No picture of them along side one another in their red carpet dresses though... of course not.

You GO, girls! I'll return shortly with yet another update - some more recent input as well.

- GG

Image of Sunday

2010-05-30T08:33:00.000-07:00

It's all out gay today, so this edition of "Image of Sunday" is rainbow pride, which will dominate the week of my desktop.

And my inspiration for this gay theme - as if I needed one - is Rihanna's new music video for the song "Te Amo", which is wonderfully gay. And of course, it's the bonus of this week, so please... Enjoy!

- GG

Image of Sunday

2010-05-23T12:22:00.000-07:00

Since this day also marks the series finale of LOST, it seems only fitting that I use this as my inspiration for 'Image of Sunday'. Another reason for this particular choice - as if I needed one - is the fact that images of this lady kissing another woman on the red carpet at the Cannes Film Festival, have been taking up space on virtually every entertainment and/or gossip site this past week.

For the above reason - and so very many others - this is the image that will decorate my desktop for the following week:

For a larger version of this image, simply click it... anywhere you'd like!

Bonus images are of course those of the before mentioned kiss - if only it'd been a true French kiss! ;o)

Have a gay week,
- GG

The good and the bad

2010-05-20T12:08:00.000-07:00

Some good and bad news have been coming out these past few weeks. First the really bad news: Kristen Stewart and Nikki Reed won't both be in the upcoming movie K-11, which would have had them playing a couple.

The film mysteriously got postponed after both actresses had mentioned it in interviews, but the more the lesbian rumors surfaced, the more the two had to be kept completely separate. First Nikki Reed wasn't part of the promotion tour for the Twilight movies [read my outing of this here]. In fact, the picture here below is from just such an event, where she showed up even though it wasn't planned - you can read about it at JustJared - and then they were inseparable... as usual:

Latest thing is that now she has dropped out (or probably been removed) from the next movie she would be making with Kristen. It all seems and sounds very umm odd... to put it mildly.

Very bad - and sad - news indeed, but the powers that be [*cough* Summit Entertainment] are obviously very persistent about keeping them completely apart.

And the good news? The other sweet couple [of BFF's] I'm keeping my eye on - Dianna Agron and Lea Michele from Glee - both made it onto the AfterEllen 2010 Hot 100 list. YAY, how wonderful and GAY!!!

Lea Michele came in at #16, which means she made her debut to the Hot 100 list on the exact same place as Kristen Stewart did the year before... I see a pattern. Let's hope Dianna Agron won't suddenly be forced out of all Glee promotion and kept away from Lea.

And speaking of Dianna Agron, she came in at a very impressive #26

#1 went to Olivia Wilde and Kristen Stewart came in at a very impressive #2 (like I mentioned before, she had her debut on the list last year at #16).

Congratulations to all the Hot 100 women that made the list - and all the gorgeous and wonderful women that didn't as well. ;o)

- GG

Image of Sunday

2010-05-16T02:53:00.000-07:00

I've decided to start my "Image of Monday" posts once again. Only this time I'll make it my "Image of Sunday" and then the image will also be my wallpaper for the following week. Now you know what I'm looking at when I'm contemplating what to do next... and everytime I open or close my dear laptop.

Anyway, I often find pictures that I can't quite figure out how to fit into a post... I just know I want to share them cause they're hot or funny (or both, LOL), so here's my first Image of Sunday:

Want the wallpaper? You can download your desired (and I can't emphasize that word enough) resolution here

I REALLY can't wait for summer... I'm preparing this post while it's raining and the sky is a very depressing grey, and this image just brightens up my mood. What can I say? I'm a sucker for luscious green grass, a beautiful woman, white tank tops, fingers and lips in unison and a quotation tattoo placed in a hot spot... Basically, this image just covers a whole lotta stuff I really like - and lust for. That's probably why I've already told my Wifey that we need to recreate this photo with her as the model.

Hmm, I might find it difficult to change this wallpaper in a week already, but I guess I'll just have to find something equally good... The pressure is on, huh?!

Btw, speaking of tattoos just now, I'd like to officially let it be known that I'm getting one before the summer is over. It will be my second and Wifey will get her first (around the same area where Angelina has her cross in the image above). I know I'm getting a quote and it won't be my last.

Only problem is that I haven't quite decided on which quote to get for my first quotation tattoo. I'm a bit of a nerdy girl, when it comes to quotes and I have 3-5 quotes I know I want to get somewhere on my body. Anyway, I'll get back to you on that.

BONUS gif of the week!

Just sit back and watch this a few times... then notice how you begin to giggle like a little school girl. You gotta love that.

Thank you Snow (The S Word) for posting this. Totally made my day! :o)

Have a beautiful week!

- GayGirl

Happy Cinco de Gayo

2010-05-05T15:21:00.001-07:00

Heavily inspired by Dorothy Snarker's post today, I thought I'd also celebrate Cinco de Gayo with a kiss...

Enjoy,
- GG

Coming out… with an album and a memoir!

2010-05-03T09:14:00.000-07:00

Well, isn’t this just plain irritating… I don’t even know who this Chely Wright is, and she’s the “celebrity” coming out on Cinco de Mayo. I guess the cat’s out of the bag [pun intended], so we’re already getting the scoop now.

The one good thing is that YAY, IT’S A GIRL!!! Other than that – and pardon my French – but who the fuck are you again? Now, usually, I’m not really pissy about people coming out, and I can definitely see the good in this one as well and have heard following examples:
1) Nobody really saw it coming
2) She’s pretty hot and could be a great poster child for coming out gay later on
3) She’s one of the first country stars to do this

And this is where I start to feel pissy, because if it’s so important for you to come out, then why the hell can’t you do it without having an album and a book to promote? I guess helping out the young LGBTQ people in the true blue Country-lovin’ states wasn’t so very damn important to you, when you had nothing to gain. And again, who the fuck are you? Oh, I know, I just need to buy your album and memoirs to find out. Right?!

If you do this at the height of your career (hat tip @ Ellen DeGeneres and Neil Patrick Harris, who have both gotten even bigger careers after coming out) or when you have nothing to gain financially from it right now (Ricky Martin), then I will worship the ground you walk on, but this is just plain business. I mean, right now this just seems like the best way for Chely Wright to get more publicity than money can buy.

I suggest you start by giving back to your community right now. I’m sure the Human Rights Campaign or ANY other LGBT friendly cause would gladly accept your donations. Do that and I’ll believe you weren’t just in it for the money. Otherwise, why didn’t you come out sooner? I really wish you had and I didn’t feel robbed like this.

Despite everything... Congratulations on coming out, I really do wish you all the best.

Welcome to the family, you already fit right in

- Gay Girl

Girl with the Tiger Tattoo

2010-05-03T07:20:00.000-07:00

If only the Lisbeth Salander books [Millenium trilogy] - and more importantly the movie adaptation - had been in the works 10 years ago, it would have been SO obvious, who should play… no, who would become Lisbeth Salander for the adaptations. The Girl with the Tiger Tattoo...

We've already seen how she can go to that extremely dark place in “Gia” (a bit too dark for her own good probably). And we know she wouldn't have the slightest problem with kissing another woman (again). Let's take a short trip down memory lane, shall we?

Confession time: Angelina Jolie is one of my all time favorite actors. I started out with “Foxfire” and it was litterally love [or lust?] at first sight. After that I was going crazy waiting for “Gia”. This was back when no one knew who the hell she was. And I mean NO one. “Angelina who?” was the usual response, when I was letting people know that I couldn’t wait for this movie about the supermodel Gia. Well, no one except for the lesbian community that is, cause there were plenty of fanpages and discussions forums filled with lesbians going crazy over this woman – and this was way back in 1998, when the Internet was just a toddler. Ahh yes, forget the gay boys being first movers, the gay girls have been the true pioneers of the Internet when it comes to anything that isn’t porn or downloading music.

Anyway, after "Tomb Raider" everyone knew who she was, but already after "Gia" people started recognizing her name because this new girl started winning every major award she was nominated for.

Anyway, back on track... Despite the fact that only very young actresses are being mentioned as contenders for the title role in "The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo", I still think Angelina Jolie could pull the role off today. I mean, Noomi Rapace is from 1979, so Kristen Stewart is more than 10 years younger while Jolie is just 4 years older than the original Lisbeth Salander. Unfortunately, I just really doubt Jolie would do it now, and people would have huge preconceived notions about how she’d do it… then again, it would be the perfect way to prove everyone wrong.

Dreaming on,
- GG

I’m not so sure now

2010-05-02T02:02:00.000-07:00

I know I just recently declared that I believed Kristen Stewart would be perfect as Lisbeth Salander in the US remake of “The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo”, but that was before I took a closer look at a few other options such as the top contender, Carey Mulligan, and I re-considered one of my initial favorites: Ellen Page.

The original Lisbeth Salander (Noomi Rapace)

I just saw “An Education” which was the movie (or rather, her role in the movie) that landed Carey Mulligan an Oscar nomination. And after having seen the movie, I must admit, it was much deserved. It is truly a wonderful movie, and she just shines! I don’t know if she’d be perfect for Lisbeth Salander, but seeing her portray a 16 year old (she’s 23 herself) with such conviction made me think she can definitely pull it off.

But then I saw a clip from “Hard Candy” where Ellen Page is ABSOLUTELY brilliant, and then I can’t help but think she is perfect for the Lisbeth Salander role. I mean, in many ways she really IS Lisbeth Salander in “Hard Candy” – well, apart from the whole Goth/Punk look with tattoos and piercings, of course.

The reason Kristen Stewart remains an obvious possibility actually has nothing to do with her acting, but more so the fact that she looks and acts like Lisbeth Salander when she’s just being Kristen Stewart in public. She’s awkward, shy and quiet, but you can see her mind is going a million miles a minute (maybe struggling to keep that closet door closed and simply not wanting to be in the public eye in the first place).

It just seems that she is already the character, so she’ll do an amazing job – plus, she’d get to kiss more females, if they stay true to the books and Swedish adaptations. ;o)

What do you think?

- GG

John Stamos?

2010-04-30T03:47:00.000-07:00

I don't really know if I believe this, but a few nights ago Wifey dreamt that John Stamos was 'The Gay' that'll come out on May 5th. Like I said, I'm not so sure about this one, but just in case it turns out to be right, I figured I'd put it out there.

And afterall, he was once married to the very lovely and yummy (that's right, I said it) Rebecca Romijn, who's had many LGBT roles over the years. From transexual in 'Ugly Betty' to lady loving in 'Femme fatale' (can we please just forget Antonio Bandaras) and just over all super gay allegory known as 'X-MEN'. And now that I mentioned 'Femme Fatale', let me remind you just how much she was loving - and feeling - up one particular lady in that movie. It's also the only reason to watch the film, but you might as well stop when Antonio enters... unless you'd like to watch Rebeca do a little dancing in her underwear. Enjoy!

Also, in my "I think this is VERY likely"-category, I would just like to point out that Queen Latifah will be part of the Lilith Fair tour this summer. I can't imagine a better gig after having just come out as a proud lesbian. I'm just sayin'...

TTFN
- GG

Who is The Gay?

2010-04-26T09:12:00.000-07:00

You may or may not have heard that another celebrity is coming out on May 5th. Oh yes, this year's Cinco de Mayo will be as gay as ever, but this time around it won't be because Ellen shows up on my TV wherever I am.

Anyway, just like everybody else, I've been wondering about who this new gay could be. And so, I have compiled a list of my top guesses. Okay okay, some of them might be wishful thinking, but still. Oh, and to be clear, by "wishful thinking" I don't necessarily mean they can't be gay, but just that they probably won't come out. Not this time around anyway.

By the way, I really hope it's going to come out a girl, but I have a sneaky suspicion it's going to be a boy. Eh, what can you do?! Let's get to it, shall we?

In the girls' corner we might see:

1. Queen Latifah - You know you want to... and we promise to treat you like royalty.

2. Michelle Rodriguez - You will never convince anyone that you're straight, and you've realized this and taken the bisexual road (yes, she might be bi, but you only ever see her with girls).

3. Kristen Stewart - Yes, I'm surprised I could wait until the third nominee, but here she is (oh, and there she is channeling our very own Shane of The L Word at Coachella recently, which AE called "More queer every year")

4. Jodie Foster - Hey, it could happen... and it's high time!

5. Nikki Reed - She's already pretty open, so I doubt she'd feel the need to do this whole official thing, but then again, it's the best way to get your own version out.

6. Dianna Agron and/or Lea Michele - Already in the gayest show around and very chummy with each other.

And if turns out to be one from the boys' side, then this is my shortlist:
1. Jake Gyllenhaal
2. Ryan Seacrest
3. Zachery Quinto
4. Wentworth Miller
5. Kevin Spacey

Of course, there is also the chance, that it's someone we've never even remotely considered, and then I'll really be chocked... and yet so very delighted as well.

To critique or review?

2010-04-19T11:17:00.000-07:00

I can get so irritated with film critics. In my opinion, you can choose to either critique or review a film. And to me, those who critique always choose to see all the bad and negative aspects of what they're essentially reviewing. I know, I know, I hardly make any sense and really it's all semantics, but still... It's such a sad way to look at things.

If a movie really sucks, then I'll say it sucks. But I can still tell you what was good about it – if anything – and I am able to watch a movie and accept that a comedy or horror film needs to deliver something different than say a drama. Comedies hardly ever get good reviews because they're not Oscar worthy movies and if that's your rating curve, then they simply can't measure up. But if the job of a comedy is to make you laugh, and I nearly pee myself cause I'm laughing like my life depends [oh yes, pun intended] on it, then that comedy has done exactly what it set out to do. And dammit, it deserves a good review then. Not just a decent one, cause it's "Good for a comedy". I mean, what the hell else should you review it as? I prefer to look at the glass as half full and not whine about it being half empty.

If I watch a movie, then I start by accepting that I'm watching something within a certain genre and then I base my review on whether or not it succeeded within that genre. If I want to laugh and I then watch "Boys Don't Cry", I'll hardly have a good time. But that doesn't mean it wasn't a good movie.

Ahh, I'm rambling... But, my point is, I don't think "Jennifer's Body" was all that bad. No, it wasn't great, but it was from the mind of Diablo Cody, and this was very clear throughout the movie, if you were open to seeing that. And – I know it was very hyped, but still – the kiss between Megan Fox and Amanda Seyfried really was DAMN hot!

Also, "Bitch Slap" was FUN... it was supposed to be a BAD movie that made fun of all the other crappy exploitation and B-movies. And that scene in the trailer was DAMN hot!

So my point is really this: If you get two girls kissing and they seem to like it, then I'll give the movie a great review - and thanks to DVD's I won't have to break the videotape, cause I'm really only watching a few select scenes... over and over and over again! ;o)

Feeling SUPER gay,
- GG

Lea Michele and Dianna Agron? I like it!

2010-04-18T10:50:00.000-07:00

I’ve been silent about these two, but I simply cannot hold my tongue any longer, so here goes: What is really going on between Lea Michele and Dianna Agron? (aka Rachel Berry and Quinn Fabray of Glee).

Okay, I’ll admit it, maybe they’re just best friends, who like to hug and cuddle. A lot. In public. All the time. I mean, I’ve had friends that I was very close and cuddly with, but that was in my early teens and never anywhere near as much as with these two.
Actually, wait... I did meet a girl, who I knew was gay like me, and we became best friends very quickly and were exactly as close as Lea and Dianna are. I mean it’s like a total déjà vu. In my case, the girl and I also became roommates. In fact, we shared a bed and would spoon and hold hands every chance we got. Of course, it did evolve from there and we had to admit there was a reason to all the hand holdning, spooning and nussling – oh yeah, I forgot to mention that, didn’t I? Huh, I wonder if they nussle as well? Hmm...

Anyway [getting my mind back on track], we were close in every way except kissing – or anything that would come after kissing – since we were very adamant about wanting to keep this great friendship. Even all our friends were asking when we’d take it to the next level and admit that there was so much more going on than simply a new best friend. But here we are almost nine years later and we’re still best friends… of course, my point – and I do have one – is that the girl is now my wife.

Here come the brides?

So yeah, I look forward to following Lea and Dianna’s relationship – no matter what the nature of it may be… or become. ;o)

Feeling a bit romantic,
- GG

I feel pretty (and inspired)

2010-04-13T02:13:00.000-07:00

Inspired by Dorothy Snarker's post today, I simply had to find this old clip, which is one of my all-time favorite Ellen moments. Again, it is of course The Ellen (check here for reference, if you're one of the uninitiated) and I really do sing this song many mornings. It's just a great way to start the day:

Have a great one,
- GG

Boobies... and one smokin' hot scene!

2010-04-11T12:01:00.000-07:00

That's pretty much what the movie "Bitch Slap" has to offer - and I'm not complaining. Look, this movie promises nothing more that to deliver an almost spoof-like plot of the various exploitation and B-movies, and it delivers pretty well on this. A bit slow at times, and while you never see someone topless, I actually prefer what we get instead: Cleavage... and lots of it!

Erin Cummings (Hel), Julia Voth (Trixie) and America Olivo (Camero)

However, without a doubt, the absolute best part of the movie, is the scene this picture below is from. Click on the image to view the trailer - oh, and there's no spoiler in the clip (except to show you the top reason to watch it). Enjoy! :o)

I'll be back soon, but due to an extremely busy weekend (in a good way), I thought I'd just leave you with a litlle something sweet (or rather "hot and sticky") in the meantime.

- GG

20 years in the closet... and counting?

2010-04-09T04:03:00.000-07:00

I've been away for FAR too long, and I will get back on track - the truth is I adore someone else's blog so damn much that I've lost focus on my own (I'll be sure to include a post on which blog this is soon).

And I have read and enjoyed all your very many comments, so I'm not gone... just hiding a bit in the shadows, I suppose. Anyway, if ever there was a time to crawl out from under my rock, then of course it would be the birthday of the most popular girl on GayGirl's blog: Kristen Stewart... and today she turns 20 years old, so let's hear it for the girl!

Okay okay, so the song is "Let's hear it for the boy", but just replace it with girl or - better yet - Tomboy, and it's quite a wonderful fit.

Anyway, let me also just get this out: I am all for Kristen Stewart for the role of Lisbeth Salander in the US remake of the Swedish "The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo". Noomi Rapace in the original version is absolutely brilliant and could easily rock the US version, but an A-list like Kristen would probably sell a lot more tickets, and she could do an awesome job.

For the record, I still have a gaydar that pings out to the max (like off the chart!) for Miss Stewart, so I'd just like to offer this one invite to her: Come on in, the water's just fine... and we won't bite - unless you
like that sort of thing. And FYI, I think many a gay ladies do... including myself - and you? ;o)

Feeling celebratory,
- GG

At last, I am back... I simply had to share.

2009-08-29T03:02:00.000-07:00

This is quite hard for me to say since I am a Coca Cola girl at heart, but I LOVE PepSi... Now, all of you initiated people must know that I don't mean the drink. I admit, I have been shockingly slow at cathcing on to this. I Mean, not even AfterEllen's mention of this show really got me interested cause I'd been so disappointed at other soaps/series that tried to feature gay story lines, but with "Los Hombres de Paco" - that's right I said it, and now ya'll KNOW which PepeSi I'm talking about - they didn't just try, they fucking DID it!!!

Again, t'was the wonder of YouTube that finally got me to catch on. Just like with "Mistresses" I was watching yet another compilation of the best lesbian kisses - that means hottest og sweetest and not horny/porn, and there are TONS of both - when I see a scene from "Los Hombres de Paco" and I am HOOKED! I was home sick, and let me tell you, I have never wanted to be sicker in my life... Now, first of all, if you still don't know what the hell I'm talking about then watch this little compilation of scenes between them:

And now jump, run, scream, tremble your way to the YouTube channel of my new hero: PepsiEnglish. Oh yes, PepsiEnglish of YouTube FAME and ADORATION!!! This most wonderful and amazing Goddess like creature has uploaded all the Pepa and Silvia (aka PepSi) scenes AND subtitled them for all us poor "no hablo español"-people. But now I am SO learning Spanish, and this is helping me tons - I have three life goals for myself; Learn to drive, Learn to play the guitar and learn Spanish. So far I only have the driver's license and OWN a guitar, so I need to up my game!
In any case: PepsiEnglish, I salute you and thank you ever so much. You are nothing short of a hero to the lesbians of the world - and no, that is NOT going too far! :o)

Happy happy happy,

- GayGirl

P.S. I am STILL a Coca Cola girl (or Diet Coke, to be exact) and not even this will change that. I am the most loyal person, so if Madonna (adore her) og Cindy Crawford (poster over my bed during my teen years is still very clear in my mind... the woman practically forced me to admit my homosexual tendencies) doing commercials for Pepsi didn't sway me, then nothing will. Besides, Katarina Witt - aka 'Sex on Ice' and 'The Beatiful face of Communism' (not that she was a communist, but she was from East Germany, so by default she officially had to be) - did a Diet Coke commercial, which set things right again.

I highly recommend...

2009-07-15T03:53:00.000-07:00

Okay, so I was just bumming around YouTube a bit to find some music. Just something to have in the background while I work - even though I almost always return to one of my old favorites, I DO also find something new and great once in a while. ANYWAY, I actually discovered a great BBC series one time, when I was just "YouTube bumming", and I thought I'd share my found treasure with you. That's just the sweet kind of GayGirl I am. ;o)

I was looking at some "best kisses" compilation videos (oh yes, t'was the lesbian kind), when I saw a clip I didn't recognize. And that doesn't happen often, since Wifey and I buy pretty much everything remotely decent looking. This one, however, we'd missed and (Thank the Goddess!), the beautiful soul who made the compilation, also included the titles it had been made from. That made it very easy to single out the new wonder: "Mistresses".

Checked it out real quick, and people were impressed and happy with it, so I bought it immediately and never looked back. In any case, here is a compilation video made by someone else, and only containing clips from "Mistresses".

Oh, and FYI, there are more (others, longer and hotter) scenes in the series, so this is merely a teaser. Amazon has it here.

TTFN,
- GayGirl

Feel like a good laugh?

2009-07-09T02:27:00.000-07:00

Okay, I know this is hardly anything new, but every couple of months, I re-discover it and have a good laugh. This time, I figured I should share it with you all:

Of course, it's something by The Ellen 'cause she can ALWAYS make me laugh.

When I fell across good ol' Gladys in the above clip, I was actually looking for the first scene I ever remember seeing Ellen in. I remember the exact moment, since I nearly peed my pants and felt an instant connection with this fabulous, goofy, sweet and funny person.

Anyway, I'll get back to you with that when I find it. :o)

- GG

QAF Mama and Mrs. Madrigal both go gay

2009-07-03T05:37:00.001-07:00

OH... MY... GOD!!!

So, as always, I make sure to spend my Friday reading the latest installment of AfterEllen.com's "Best.Lesbian.Week.Ever", and then on page three there's a story on upcoming movie called "Hannah Free" starring Sharon Gless as a lesbian!

And I LOVE Sharon Gless... though the movie sounds like a pretty sad and tough lovestory, it's in a "The Notebook"-sorta way, and I ADORE "The Notebook" (makes me cry every single time).

Anyway, I'm all excited about this fantastic woman from "Cagney and Lacey" and "Queer as Folk"-fame playing a lesbian, in a lovestory type deal, when I get to page six and now it's Olympia Dukakis playing a lesbian in the upcoming movie "Cloudburst", which is a roadtrip type movie along the line of "Thelma and Louise"... Could you die?! I am SO excited by this... Mrs. Madrigal (from Armistead Maupin's "Tales of the City", in you're uninitiated) will play a lesbian.

Oh, and her lover of 30 years will be the brilliant Irish actress Brenda Fricker.

I have really high hopes for both of these movies, and simply relish the idea of having movies with lesbian lovestories that don't revolve solely around 20-something girls. I'm a 20-something girl, but I want movies portraying what I'll have with my Wifey 30 years from now - as well as portraits of our lives now, of course. I'm not giving up on that. ;o)

Movie-loving-lesbian,
- GG

Image of Monday: Kiss Me...

2009-06-29T07:13:00.001-07:00

Have a Happy Monday... :o)

- GayGirl

How about both versions of the VF shoot?

2009-06-25T01:01:00.000-07:00

Okay, sure, it's just a quick pec on the lips... but it is a kiss, and you KNOW they would've focused on this if it had been with one of the male co-stars. But it's okay to kiss another girl (thank you, Katy Perry, LOL). Well, you know, as long as you don't like it TOO much and actually want to do it when nobody's watching. ;o)

Anyway, after viewing the official VF shoot footage above, I stumbled across the "full" version on my beloved YouTube. In this complete version the girls are dancing and well - the video shows this, so don't take my word for it - they simply cannot keep their hands off of each other for even two seconds. Below is the uncut version, which a kind soul uploaded with the comment:
This is just for those Nikki Reed/Kristen Stewart fans out there who raised an eyebrow at the edited VF shoot.

It's sweet, it's wonderful and it must've been love (of SOME kind, anyway)...

LOVING the love,
- GayGirl

New tattoo?

2009-06-25T00:07:00.000-07:00

No, this isn't about Nikki Reed or Kristen Stewart or any other famous person... It's just lil' ol' me. ;o)

You see, one of my treats for when I have my body is to get a tattoo. Well, one more, actually. I got my first tattoo ten years ago this summer, so I think it's high time for another. I have more than one planned too, but just one at a time. Oh, and they're all hidden so far, and I plan on keeping it that way. If anything, I'd go for the wrist, foot or inside of my lower arm near my elbow, but for the current and next one, you need to catch me in a bikini to see it.

The first is on my lower stomach and I got it when I was about umm maybe 20-25 pounds lighter. I was a bit on the heavy side, but being a vegetarian for 18 months and coming to terms (happily, I might add) with being gay really helped me shed the weight. Unfortunately, being happy and comfortable, has meant the weight has crept on again during the years. I've already lost a good 10 pounds now, so I need about 10 more for starters. I became too thin back in my veggie days, but this was after the tattoo. I'd really like to go vegetarian again - it's easier to control my food intake and morally I'd feel a lot better, but it just seems to scare people a bit (especially my mom is scared I'll get too thin again) and also, it's a bit of an inconvinience. Not to me, mind you, but everyone else perceives it that way. Just one of my little battles, I suppose.

ANYWAY, back on track: Tattoo! Hmm, I suppose my old tattoo could be described as being close to the hip bone, but it's not quite as low as I would've liked. LOL, or maybe it's just my gaining and losing weight that has me confused about where it was versus where it is now. In any case, I still love it, and have no regrets about getting it - though it does need a touch-up and maybe I'll add something to it.
But my next tattoo - which is what this post was initially supposed to be about, before I got a rambling attack - is going to be a quote from Braveheart. I've been struggling with what I wanted, but I was pretty sure I wanted a quote, and suddenly I stumbled across an old e-mail I sent myself with quotes for future tattoos and it all came back to me. I've ALWAYS wanted this, and somehow I'd forgotten.

Your heart is free. Have the courage to follow it.

Wifey actually made a sketch for me with this quote in latin and some artwork around it about 6 years ago. Back then I wanted it placed on my lower back, but I was never quite pleased - or at ease - with the idea and look of it. But now I know what I want: Just the quote in a cool font and on the left side of my torso (near my heart). Like this one, but still different:

I don't have the sketch ready yet, but I will soon and we're booking an appointment with a tattoo place soon, so I'll have that as an incentive to get totally toned by then. October is the plan, and it'll be Wifey and my birthday present to one another. Oh yeah, she's getting one too. Her first one. Nothing like mine and in a different spot... it'll be an amazing experience.

Anyone has any experience with getting tattooed in that area of your body?

- Gaygirl

Sex on Fire

2009-06-22T05:25:00.000-07:00

Okay, so my latest obsession is the song "Sex on fire" by Kings of Leon. Hardly a new song, but I found this playlist on YouTube that has like 30-something different videos for the song, and obviously, I just say "play all" and go about my online fun and/or work on my computer.

I love how YouTube playlists have proven to me that I am no freak. Just because I can listen to the same song like a freakin' billion times, I am not alone with my addiction. I mean, even I think that sounds pretty sick. But if I switch to another song, then I know I'll start getting cravings for my current "drug of choice" again, and so... I return. Also, it has become my running and umm fantasy song (?), I suppose. To me, it just SCREAMS 'put me on and have passionate sex'. LOL, to some people that effect comes from clothes og a scent, but for me it's music - though the other stuff works too. ;o)

Oh, and I've discovered a great new thing; Certain songs is my new comfort food. I mean, instead of eating something, I can actually just play a song (right now it's this one) and get the same need fullfilment. It's GREAT to help me get to my body.

Anyway, I was thinking that the song would be great for one of those amazing compilation videos on YouTube (my other guilty YouTube pleasure). You know, the one called "best kisses" or just "favorite scenes" and of course the operative words in connection to this is gay/lesbian. ;o) And what do you know, I stumbled across one... Not even looking for it really. Anyway, whether you like the compilations or the song, here you go (embedding was disabled, so I have to direct you to it)

Maybe afterwards you'll like both? :oP

Feelin' groovy,
- GG

Image of Monday: Rainbow kisses

2009-06-22T03:08:00.000-07:00

Have a great one! :o)
- GG

Vote for "Pariah"

2009-06-20T09:27:00.000-07:00

Dee Ree's "Pariah" is a semi-finalist in the Netflix "Find Your Voice" competition, and it looks really great, so I just thought I'd direct your attention to this little gem:

Don't forget to vote here! :o)

- GayGirl

Catherine Keener and Gina Gershon's lovechild

2009-06-20T04:44:00.000-07:00

When I first saw Dawn Denbo on "L Word", my first thoughts were "Damn, she looks a lot like Gina Gershon" and "Whoa, but she sounds like Catherine Keener... and sorta looks like her too". And ever since then, I've refered to her as Catherine Keener and Gina Gershon's lovechild. Of course, her name immediately proved a vital clue, so I realize that she, Elizabeth Keener, IS actually Catherine Keener's younger sister and there's no relation (that I know of) to Gina Gershon. But humor me and just look at these pictures below... Elizabeth does almost look more like Gina than she does her sister. ;o)

Well, they could definitely all play sisters. Hmm, that could be a cool movie. They're certainly all amazing women. ;o)

- GG

Is Nikki ready to propose? ;o)

2009-06-18T07:08:00.000-07:00

Eventhough I am a selfconfessed Rambling Queen, I'll let this one play out on its own - just pay extra close attention at around 2 min 15 sec.

The interview is dated at April 15th according to the source

So... What do you think?

- GG

To be fair...

2009-06-17T11:50:00.000-07:00

I know, I'm all over this Nikki and Kristen thing these days. I can't help it... I've got this pretty finely tuned Bullsh*t detector, and this whole thing has just set it off. Not wondering about the nature of their relationship, but the obvious cover-up and "damage control" of removing Nikki Reed from all PR, and them not being seen together after months of being inseperable.

But in all fairness, I do remember what it was like to be in my early twenties. Having nothing to hold me back and just enjoy life (I still have that but just with some responsibilities to set a few boundaries to the madness, LOL).
Anyway, one of the reasons I remember this time of my life so fondly and vividly, is because it's when I met the love of my life.

We started out becoming the very best of friends, and our relationship was definitely very physically close as well - though not sexual. Oh, of course, it is quite sensual when you're always touching and staying practically attached at the hips and holding hands, but we insisted we were just friends.
We became friends knowing we were both gay (we met online and were both just looking for other gay friends actually), and so we opened up completely to each other immediately. There's nothing to hide or fake, when you're building a friendship, and not dating. LOL, everyone else thought it was obvious that we were actually falling in love and practicaly dating - no matter what we called it - and eventually, when we spent a night apart for the first time in weeks, we caved in.

During some late night texting, my new best friend (and favorite person in the Universe to be completely honest) suddenly asked if I thought we should be more than just friends. Without hesistation, I knew that I did. And after panicking over my cell phone suddenly refusing to send my reply - and creating some panic at the other end because no reply came - I finally managed to get a signal by hanging out the window with my cell phone.
Just a few days before, we had talked about how we really didn't have room to date anyone, cause we had each other. And any girlfriend would have to accept that we were best friends and physically close, cause we had no intention of not cuddling up next to one another in bed og stop holding hands. And what girlfriend would - or should - ever accept that. I certainly never would have myself. On the other hand, we didn't want to ruin our amazing friendship, so we knew we should be happy with "just" that. LOL, yeah, right, Sometimes you have to accept that you do have choices, and don't have to settle for less than what your heart desires. It probably would have ruined us if we hadn't realized what was happening.

Anyway, my point... when I see Nikki and Kristen (or Lindsay and Samantha back in the day, for that matter), then I see myself and Wifey. Being happy and carefree, not caring or minding that nobody else understands our relationship. But looking back, those people [our friends who knew us very well apperantly] who we claimed didn't understand what we had, were all probably just a lot quicker at seeing what was happening, while we were happy just living it.

And, looking back, I wouldn't have done a single thing differently... It was perfect! :o)

Lovingly,
- GayGirl

A comment I just left at another site and wanted to share

2009-06-16T04:45:00.000-07:00

I find it amusing (and a bit disturbing) how everyone is so busy stating "they're just friends" and how apparently everybody's kissing their same-sex friends and it means absolutely nothing. It seems that same-sex friends can only be friends no matter what behaviour they exhibit. Opposite-sex friends though, they can never be "just" friends. I mean, you guys all KNOW that you would be screaming "they're SO in love" if this was Robert and Kristin or Nikki acting this way.
And I know from personal experience how this works. No one would ever think that my love of 8 years was the girl next to me. We're just "very close friends" in the eyes of the public majority. No matter how much we kiss and hold hands, the fact that we don't fit the "lesbian stereotype" makes it all very innocent, apparently. LOL, if they only knew. ;o)
And finally, you ALL know you were saying the same damn thing about Lindsay and Samantha. And we all know how that turned out. :o)
Oh, and for the record, I'm not saying that Kristen and Nikki are a couple. I'm just saying I think it's strange that everyone dismisses it no matter what their behaviour might indicate. Also, now Nikki has disappeared from the public eye and it seems like her and Kristen have been instructed to stay away from each other in public, since they haven't been seen together in weeks. And this after traveling around together and after one another for months. Hmm, the plot thickens... ;o)

Where is Nikki Reed?

2009-06-15T00:31:00.000-07:00

I almost forgot... There was an additional little interesting fact in relation to the pictures of Dakota og Kristen taken in Italy. The pictures were published on several websites in late May, but earlier that same month, Nikki Reed was seen in L.A. - since she wasn't in the scenes being shots in Vancouver at the time - and according to JustJaredJr, she was quoted as saying to MTV:

“Put it this way: I am not in any of the scenes in Italy, but we’ve already made sure that I am going to Italy while they shoot that because I am sort of obsessed with that portion of the book.”

But then the question becomes: Where was Nikki Reed? Was she ever in Italy? The answer: No!

While the quote above was seen everywhere on May 13th, just six days later (on May 18th) several websites were reporting the opposite. Refering to the quote above and adding their own two cents:
It is no secret that Reed and co-star Kristen Stewart are and have been very close friends for a great while, and, as a group, all of the stars of Twilight have developed a bond and friendship that seems to continue through the filming process.
the Examiner reported that she had decided against it and would be spending time with her family instead.

Hmm, okay, so she's just been in L.A. for a while, not being with the cast in Vancouver, and now she decided against a holiday in the company of friends, cause she wanted to spend more time with her family. And she just decided this in less than a week? Eager and excited to go one minute and wanting to relax with her family the next? Riiiight.

Meanwhile, the fascinating latest news about Nikki Reed [ALL over the Internet since June 12th] is that both she and Ashley Greene have decided to quit smoking. Yay, doing it for the kids... They want to be good role models. No gay, no smoke... ALL good! Hmm, gives a new double meaning to the word "fag" [slur for gay and British slang for cigarette].

Guess we won't be seeing any more picture like this:

But then again, ANY picture with Kristen and Nikki seen together would be a miracle these days.

Looking for the BFF's,
- GG

The plot thickens... Enter a new BFF?

2009-06-14T19:55:00.000-07:00

Turn to MTV Asia for an interview with Nikki Reed. Of course, this is from before she mysteriously vanished from all Twilight publicity, but still. It is quite open and candid. Here's just a bit from the interview:

"It's bizarre. Obviously, we can do it [hate each other on screen] because it is acting. But it is really funny." She's speaking about her real-life love for BFF Kristen Stewart - a sharp contrast to her character's distaste toward Stewart's Bella. Fans all over the world have loved to hate Reed for being so cruel to their Bella, but in actuality, the duo recently took a vacation together to Africa and plan to reunite for the movie K-11 between Twilight sequels.

Hmm, "She's speaking about her real-life love for BFF Kristen Stewart". Well now, isn't that just truly sweet and innocent and how wonderful that they've gone to Africa together. But of course, completely inappropriate for the US market. Oh wait, do they think BFF means "Best Fuck Friend"? That would explain a lot, since they're treating the whole thing as if that's the nature of the girls' relationsship. And obviously, that little fact needs to be hidden.

Meanwhile, the latest news in the US (and therefor the entire Western world) is the budding friendship bestween Kristen and Dakota Fanning, which I personally think is great. Of course, I do believe it helps very much that Dakota is still perceived as an 11-year old sweet girl by many, and therefor is no threat to the possible gayness factor of Kristen Stewarts image.

And this time, I'm not the only one noticing how Dakota has been absent from Kristen's public off set life, and is now suddenly showing up. This picture below was found on Atwilightkiss.com where it was accompanied by this comment:
At long last, there’s a picture of the soon to be The Runaways co-stars Kristen Stewart and Dakota Fanning, who have never been caught together in Vancouver despite the fact that they will be shooting for the next eight weeks before the grueling Eclipse shoot and New Moon publicity starts.

According to the comments, there's been a picture of them seen together in Vancouver as part of a group, but not where it seemed as if they were friends privately. Here's another shot for ya... this one was found on newmoonmovie.org (which is one of the websites where certain images and stories on Nikki and Kristen have mysteriously disappeared from the archives). Ashley Greene is there too, but that doesn't seem to get a lot of attention, since Dakota is the new thing.

Hmm... I'll keep ya posted for more evidence, that there were once two girls, who hung out all the time, the world's best known BFF's for a while and loved each other (in one way or another - or every way). ;o)

- GayGirl

Is Kristen Stewart gay?

2009-06-13T04:22:00.000-07:00

Who knows... Well, obviously she does. Maybe. But that's not really my point - and today, I actually have one. It seems that the media is collectively doing their best damn effort to suddenly spin every Kirsten Stewart story towards a VERY straight image.

In the previous month, every story has been about her and Robert Pattinson or her and official boyfriend, Michael Angarano. The latest Kristen Stewart stories on PopSugar is an excelent example of this. Now, this wouldn't be so strange if it wasn't because there is absolutely NO focus on any kind of affair og issues with her cheating on boyfriend Michael.

Oh no, we see one story featuring a "PDA filled walk with her boyfriend" (April 28th) and six days later (May 4th) the focus is "Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart Get Intimate!" (the pictures to prove this "intimate" evening consist of them talking at a concert, mind you). But everything is totally fine as long as she is either with this boy or that boy... in the meantime, Nikki Reed has suddenly vanished from the surface of the Earth (last post on PopSugar where she was mentioned is April 20th) and if she is actually seen, you can be sure it isn't anywhere near Kristen Stewart.

Seriously, she isn't even at the award shows or anything. Suddenly we only get pictures of Kristen Stewart surrounded by four human beings of the male persuassion, with image captions such as "Kristen was all smiles, sandwiched between Taylor Lautner and fellow best kiss winner Robert Pattinson"... umm, all smiles? What picture are YOU looking at?

I mean, it is so obviously the tail wagging the dog, and their little spin to move the big star [Kristen Stewart] far away from those pescy lesbian rumours. Rumours that did actually have pictures of Kristen Stewart and Nikki Reed looking quite intimate (and only having eyes for each other) at the root. Such as this one:

Umm, yeah, they look totally crazy about good ol' Robert... positively boycrazy. Or this one:

Now, I'm not saying they ARE or WERE a couple... But that picture IS a typical couple posing for the cameras.

Then there's this interesting tidbit:

I originally saw the picture above in an article about Kristen and Nikki being seen out together yet again, but that particular article has now been changed to an article about Robert kissing Kristen on her birthday (Goddess bless Google cached for giving us the truth, LOL). Or how about these last official ones:

Anyway... I just find it umm, well, scary that the media is buying into this. Some very high-powered people must have been giving very strict orders for this to be pulled off so completely. They are just hushing this thing to death. And fine, let them try... I'm just saying, gay or not, this whole PR spin is ridiculous and really makes it look like they ARE hiding something.

Feeling cheated,
- GayGirl

P.S. ONE thing bothering me was this: Why would Kristen - or especially Nikki - go along with this? Well, there's this new movie in the works featuring the two actresses (Kristen's mom's directorial debut). The movie could be a real challenge and something different for the girls. This means that all they would have to do is tell the actresses to stay out of the press together, or the movie will never be made. Just my theory... But this thing reaks of manipulation, so why not?

Seking Simone - new lesbian web series

2009-06-13T04:01:00.000-07:00

Let's hear it for the lesbians... Entrepreneurs of the Internet. I just stumbled upon a new web series which I recommend we all give a shot. You never know what it might turn into, and then you can say you helped start the revolution and was a true firstmover. Here's the trailer for ya:

Also, check out the official website, where the two first episodes are already available for viewing. And you should read the hilarious FAQ over at Creampuff Revolution here

Enjoy! :o)
- GG

My mommy's gay?

2009-06-11T03:34:00.000-07:00

No, not really, but this is what I thought Pink was saying in her "Stupid Girl" video, when I first saw it.

There's this little intermission part, where she's in the bathroom of some club, and she says (I thought) "My mommy's gay!" as she stuck something down her throat to make herself vomit into the sink.

Obviously, this didn't make ANY sense to me. Some people would probably want to vomit at the idea that their mother was gay, but I just can't see that being Pink's reaction... So I googled it! And of course she's saying something entirely different, that actually does make sense - both in relation to the song and the action itself: "I will be skinny!"

Now, HOW I could ever get "My mommy's gay" from "I will be skinny", I still don't know... except sometimes you just hear "gay" everywhere when you're just like SO gay (which I totally am, LOL), but I can still make myself 'hear' both versions, when I see the video, and usually that's not the case, when I discover the actual/correct words to something.

Hmm, go figure... and my point? There is none. But I WILL be skinny (or just fit like my alter ego in the previous post), and I AM gay... But my mother isn't. ;o)

Peace out from the Rambling Queen,
- GG

P.S. The picture in this post has nothing to do with the "Stupid Girl" video. She just looks great here. ;o)

I have decided...

2009-06-07T04:43:00.001-07:00

THIS will be my body:

I'm not really close to it now, but in umm 15-20 pounds, I should surely be able to hit my mark. So now this picture is on my desktop, by my treadmill and now on my blog. :o)

I've got my birthday coming up in August, and I've already bought an outfit (though I plan on fitting into that one by mid July). All very exciting cause it's easier for me during the summer. I get energy from the sun and I need to pull on that.

Plus, I'm REALLY looking forward to very hot and steamy sex, when Wifey gets to enjoy the body I'll be happy with myself. Now THAT is one Hell of an incentive. ;o)

- Diet GayGirl

I love the gay penguins

2009-06-06T02:55:00.000-07:00

I mean, how can you not love these guys? They actually tried putting female penguins in with the gay male penguins at the Bremerhaven Zoo in Germany, but they showed absolutely no interest. If that doesn't tell you that homosexuality is very natural, then I don't know what would.

Obviously people would initially argue that it was a lack of females that "turned the penguins gay", but that theory was shot down by the failed introduction of oestrogen with the female penguin (poor thing, hope her ego didn't get too bruised). So it's merely a question of these animals acting out their natural inclination... Just like me - and you, probably, since you're reading this blog. ;o) And if not, then you're still very welcome, dear hetero-one. :o)

Anyway, the latest thing in the the gay-penguin-saga is that they've now become proud parents. Another (straight) couple apparently threw the egg out of their batch, and so - in order to save the un-hatched little chick - the Zoo people tried giving it to the Gay couple (called "Z" and "Vielpunkt") and they looked after the egg for 35 days before it hatched, and since April 25th, they have been proud fathers of a little chick. Everybody now: Awwww! :o)

Previously, other gay penguin couples have had successful hatchings and parenthood. After a gay penguins couple (Roy and Silo) at Central Park Zoo had been nesting a rock, the Zookeeper gave them a fertile egg, which also resulted in a little chick to make the family complete. This just proves SO much about how natural all kinds of love and families truly are. Gotta love that!

Spreading the gay love,
- GayGirl

Woohoo, that's my Drew!

2009-05-29T04:55:00.000-07:00

Yes, I know, TWO entire posts in just one day... What is the world coming to? Anyway, I've always adored Drew (she's got "The Drew" status just like Ellen, but I'll humor those in doubt) Barrymore. She's always so happy and seem to genuinely wish to make other people happy. And she has always been a great support for all LGBT issues. Still, I can't help but get a huge smile across my face, when I just now stumbled across pictures of her taking part in a protest march in California against Prop 8 and the need for marriage equality.

I've loved her book "Little Girl Lost" since I first read it many years ago, and she has come so very far - both personally and professionally. Usually, I say either "my Drew" or "that's me" when I see her. The first because I'm proud of the things she does and the second because she always wears outfits that would look great on me. :oP Now, I would need to get in better shape and go to the hairdresser a lot more often to tame my WILD hair - my hair is the one thing about me my Wifey can't tame, LOL - but other than that there is quite a good resemblance. ;o)

Oh, Drew, if only you would "turn gay" it would be the coolest day. Not because I'd trade Wifey in for you (or anyone one else), but I would just be so proud to have you on our team. Hmm, then again, I suppose we already have that. :o)

Rock ON with your bad self and God(dess) bless you, Drew Barrymore!

One happy homo-camper,
- GayGirl

P.S. I am SO back... Can you feel my blogging-mojo? ;o)

Oh yes, there will be blogging

2009-05-29T02:49:00.000-07:00

I know, I know... you've heard it all before. I've promised to come back to blogging regularly, but what can I say except this: I've bought the Ginkgo Biloba, but I keep forgetting to take it, so it hasn't kicked in yet.

But really, I've been cleaning out my closet - such a gay metaphore that I have to go with it - and given up on some freelance work that was close to pure charity. If you can call it that when no one worthy reaps all the benefits. Hmm, does that make me sound bitter? If so, GOOD... but I'm over it now! ;o)

Now I have 3 main projects and they all interest me (this is one of them, in case you were wondering), so I should be able to stay focused. :o)

TTFN,
- GG

Words of Ellen (aka Wisdom)

2009-01-31T02:54:00.000-08:00

Yes, the Ellen has always been a source for some brilliant quotes and words to live by. Oh, and just so there's no doubt as to who I mean, she is now "the Ellen" - the uninitiated can turn to previous posts if they're unsure about which Ellen this is. ;o)

You see, the thing is, the very busy and stressful previous three months have resulted in my memory being quite bad. And this is VERY unlike me. That's why I need to get myself some Ginkgo Biloba, and THIS is where the Ellen comes in (no, I did not forget my point of this post or the headline).

Anyway, where was I... Oh yeah, so the movie was... no wait, that's not it... See, that's why I need to get the drug of nature and HERE it comes:

"My memory is just getting worse. People tell to me to take Ginkgo Biloba, but if you can remember to take Ginkgo Biloba every day, then you don’t need it"
- the Ellen

And these are the words of wisdom that I plan to live by. Now, if I could just start by remembering to buy some ginkgo biloba, then I'll be good to go.

XOXO
- GayGirl

There's no excuse...

2009-01-27T10:52:00.001-08:00

... then again, I have been BEYOND busy. I mean, to the point where my body started reacting (or rather acting up) with a rash. Oh no, I am not at all complaining, since I did choose all that I do. I'm simply stating that I've had my plate full. ;o)

For the past 3-4 months I've worked two fulltime jobs (to be executed during the hours of one fulltime job, mind you), a final exam which consisted of a 75 page report followed by an exam that I got through last week. Oh and this was all around Christmas and just managing every day life on top of that. But again, I chose it all and knew it would only be this crazy for a while. In a month's time I'll truly be back to a "normal" workload. Hmm, though of course I do have some projects going on as well.

In any case, the good news is that one of these "projects" is this blog, which means I AM BACK! :o) Super busy times are over, and yesterday I actually sat down a read a chapter in the book that I started during my summer vacation. It was almost a surreal experience to just relax and read. You really do enjoy things a lot more once you've been without them for a while.

TTFN... I will surely be back soon. :o)

- GayGirl

No words, just symbols...

2008-12-02T04:15:00.000-08:00

♀ + ♀ = ♥

I'm just sooo gay! ;o)

and...

...too busy these days - but I'm not gone, and 2009 will be a good and productive year in every sense. Just as 2008, but not quite as busy, I hope.

Off to birthday parties and Christmas celebrations,
- GayGirl

I made it...

2008-11-21T23:43:00.000-08:00

... I am now back home with Wifey. I had a great trip and got to meet a lot of really good business contacts.

I've got more trips lined up before the year is over, but no more overnight trips - just really long days, but that's fine. :o)

Oh, and the solution [the reason why I felt I could sleep without Wifey] was that after several plane and train rides and many meetings (plus half a bottle of nice red wine during a dinner with colleagues), I was completely beat and could barely stay awake. ;o)

But the REAL help was the fact that my "sleeping shirt" for the night, was same one that Wifey had slept in the previous night, and also, I had a T-shirt of hers with me, that she had worn a few nights (the one she'd been "fragranizing" for me, LOL). This "scent shirt" I had right next to my heart all night. I actually folded it togther and put it under my night shirt, and just hugged it ALL night. I woke up in exactly the same position I had fallen asleep... and Wifey and I texted each other both right before going to sleep and as soon as we woke up.

Anyway, now we're just going to enjoy the weekend... And [especially] each other! :oP

Feeling goooood,
- GayGirl
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I will... But I really can't

2008-11-14T01:49:00.000-08:00

To sleep a night without my Wifey, is something I've always said I wouldn't do... Actually, it's something we've always said WE wouldn't do. And still, that's what I'll do for one night next week.

I can't... I mean I REALLY don't want to, but I will. It's a business trip and 36 hours are jam-packed with more meetings than I can count, and in two different countries. So three plane rides, a few train and cab rides, different time zones and one night in a hotel later, I'll be back.
Wifey is okay with it... I can't really say that I am, but I'll still do it.

However, I'll only be able to sleep because I'm completely exhausted, which I will no doubt be. Dreaming of Wifey... and wearing a shirt that she's "fragranizing" for me a few days before I leave. ;o)

So in love... and so very, very torn!
- GayGirl
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Feeling numb

2008-11-08T02:02:00.000-08:00

I am truly amazed that Obama actually made it, and so very happy that he did - even if I still wish it had been Hillary, but I've come to terms with that. LOL, well, maybe not quite, but I AM happy with the result and think it's amazing in so many ways.

However, everything - all the progress and happiness I felt at first -- when it was clear that Obama had won -- was extremely diminished by the result of Prop. 8.

I don't even live in California, but where I do live we "only" have domestic partnership, so I understand the significance and possible repercussions of this result. I guess that's why I've been going through the same thing. I sat at work and constantly hit the refresh button hoping and wishing that the result would suddenly start going in the opposite direction... But it never happened. Meanwhile everyone around me we SO excited about Obama winning, but I simply felt robbed of the "amazing and historic progress" that everyone was thrilled about.
Probably because I know that Wifey and I (yes, I will forever call her “wife” even if we don’t have “marriage”) would’ve gotten married over the summer, if we lived in CA.

However, when I saw pictures and footage from the impromptu march, I realized that this is far from over. But I'm still heartbroken by the result.

I guess I just can't understand why my ability to get married affects anybody else. I mean, I could marry and divorce a new murderer, rapist, child abuser, WHATEVER, every year. Well, as long as that person is a man. But to marry the person I love, I need to have permission from the majority? Well then, if you get to decide who I can marry, shouldn’t I have a say in who you can marry as well?

Actually, at first I thought Prop. 8 was fine, cause I really couldn’t imagine that it would be passed. I guess I underestimated how much people enjoy having power over other people’s lives. I mean, you can watch me walking down the street with a girl one day, and if we get married that very night and you see us again the next day, you would STILL just see two girls walking down the street. It changes absolutely nothing in your life, but you still want to exercise your power when you have the ability.

Feeling sad and confused,
- GG

P.S. Sorry about the lack of posts - I've just been very busy and very umm, well, numb after the election. I'm back now though. ;o)

It was bound to happen... Meme-time!

2008-10-24T04:30:00.000-07:00

Birth month: August... I am SUCH the Leo! :o)

Birthplace: Europe... and not even one of the warmer countries. Why couldn't I have been born in California?

My Heritage: Northern European, but with some South-Eastern European in the mix somewhere (we're not sure where, but there's a bit of "Gypsies, tramps and thieves" on my father's side)

Eye Color: One of my nicknames (and profile picture) isn't "Miss Green Eyes" for nothing. Hmm, though sometimes during the colder months, they can seem blue.

Right or Left handed: Right, but very left legged. Whether at soccer or karate (yeah, I've tried a couple of cool things), my left leg is by far the strongest and most accurate.

Shoes I'm wearing today: Puma, beige suede with light blue leather highlights. My feet love them!

My Weakness: My wife, food and my temper (in that order)

My Worst Fear: Losing people I love

My Perfect Pizza: Very simple with a thin crust and just tomato, oregano and cheese

Most Overused Phrase: Calling something "gay" because you find it lame or feminine

Your Best Physical Feature: Eyes and hands - though I'm talented in other areas as well... But... that wasn't the question, right. ;o)

McDonalds or Burger King: Burger Queen

Coke or Pepsi: Diet Coke... Always and forever, though I rarely drink it these days

Chocolate or Vanilla: Vanilla... 'cause then I'll ad my own flavour with a zillion toppings and sauces

Cappuccino or Coffee: I used to say I'd never drink coffee. Now I'm the only one in my family and circle of friends that choose espresso when we're out

Cash or Credit cards: I like the cash... I feel richer and more in touch with my spendings. Though I do have all the major credit cards and use them when travelling

Do you Smoke: No, thankfully I never got into that. I know I have quite an addictive personality, so I'd probably be hooked in a bad way

Do you Swear: Aww HELL yes!

Do you Sing: I like to, yes, and if it's quiet I'm always humming to myself or singing a song in my head

Do you get along with your Parents: Yes, I acutally have a great relationship with my parents - it doesn't hurt that they adore my dear Wifey. ;o)

Do you like Thunderstorms: Oh yeah... ;o)

Do you play an Instrument: STILL need to learn to play the guitar

Do you drink alcohol: Yes, but I VERY rarely get drunk. A bit of a buzz once in a while is enough for me

Do you do any drugs: Never

In the past month have you eaten a box of Oreos: Not a BOX, no... LOL, well, another kind of "box" yes, but not of Oreos. A snackpack of Oreos, yes.

In the past month have you eaten Sushi: Unfortunately no

Ever gone Skinny Dipping: Yes, and it was very nice, but quite innocent

How do you want to Die: My wife and I have already agreed to die in our sleep in each others arms, when we're old and our time has come

What do you want to be when you Grow Up: Living in the Santa Barbara (CA) area

What country would you most like to Visit: Australia, since I still haven't been there

Best Clothing Style: "College Girl" in the Fall look

Number of CDs I own: No idea, but I love music, so I have A LOT!

Number of Piercings: Only the ears, one in each

Number of Tattoos: One... and counting

Number of things in my Past I Regret: In theory, there's a few. But eveything I've been through has brought me here... I can't regret anything!

FINALLY, I understand now!

2008-10-22T00:18:00.001-07:00

I've been trying to figure out why I love the Callie/Erica storyline and relationship on Grey's Anatomy so much, and now I know. Malinda Lo's column at AfterEllen.com just managed to explain it perfectly. Also, her column made me realize how much their story reminds me of how I met my Wifey.

We're always gushing about how happy we are that things went so slow. I mean, people knew we should be together for quite a while before we realized it. We quickly became best friends and were really scared of losing the friendship if things didn't work out - quite a silly fear as things have turned out. But still, everything was savoured and we can laugh at how innocent we were in the beginning... but it was perfect.

Thank you, Malinda... I think I'm gonna feel all warm and tingly inside for a while after reading your column. :o)

- GayGirl

How dare you?

2008-10-20T23:05:00.000-07:00

Okay, I may be sensitive and my sense of fairness can get a bit warped. But when I go to a special screening of a movie featuring a lesbian love story as the primary theme, then I have a REALLY hard time tolerating that the straight couple in front of me feel a need to constantly be making out and be super lovey-dovey. I really am not much for public affection (kisses, hugs, holding hands is all fine, but I feel that make-out sessions is really inappropriate - the disco, bar and club scene not included).

Anyway, I have to look at you straight couples “flashing your sexuality in my face” every single day - oh yeah, you KNOW that’s what they’d be calling it if two boys in love were even thinking about holding hands. But when I go to see a movie made for ME and MY people, then I really don’t think I should have to put up with it. Oh, I know this couple were feeling very tolerant and open-minded by going to see this movie (where the audience were otherwise gay, bisexual or single straight men hoping to see some lesbian action), but you seemed more pathetic than anything, since you were sooo busy showing everyone that you were a couple, you know, straight couple… being like, totally straight… with each other.

Besides, this movie was REALLY good, so if this straight couple had actually been interested in the movie, then they would have been acting like the rest of the people there. All everyone else had time for was holding hands, sharing loving glances, sitting close and reaching for a kleenex. Yes, even those insensitive assholes in front of me couldn’t ruin this movie called "The Chinese Botanist's Daughter".

Think “Brokeback Mountain” set in a totally different environment and with lesbians… and they made ALL the right choices – not the safe or easy ones, but always the option that could keep them together in SOME way. There's a review at AfterEllen here

Feeling happy to be gay in this society and time (even if we still have a long way to go for equality)
- GayGirl

Dreams of pregnancy

2008-10-15T02:47:00.000-07:00

No, I have no desire to get pregnant anytime soon – if ever… probably never, actually. However, what my nifty little headline refers to are actual dreams I’ve been having about once a year for the past 4-5 years.

What interesting is that these dreams always seem to follow the same storyline, even if the scenery is always changing:

Part 1) The dream begins and suddenly I look down and see my VERY pregnant belly (we’re talking 8 months pregnant). At first I always seem to get very happy at this discovery, but this feeling only lasts for about 10 seconds. Then comes…

Part 2) PANIC! I am not at all ready to have a child. What am I gonna do? What about that trip we’re taking to New York next month? Well, we’ll have to cancel that. And I’ll have to tell my workplace that I’m going on maternity leave in like a day or two…

Part 3) HOW did this even happen? At this point I’m always with my dear wife and telling her that I swear I haven’t been cheating on her (which I never would in ANY case, and she knows this). Besides, I’m a Goldstar lesbian (you know, never had sex with a man), so we’d really be talking Immaculate Conception here.

Part 4) My wife believes me and seems much calmer than me, which is always very comforting. There’s not even the tiniest doubt or confusion… obviously she just got me pregnant and we’re not surprised that our lesbian lovechild is making me look 8 months pregnant within a day or two. But me, I’m still in a state of panic and feel like my life is ending.

Part 5) I wake up and immediately feel my stomach and breathe a heavy sigh of relief… then I wake up Wifey and tell her I’ve had a scary dream, and she holds me.

However, as the years go by (and more of our friends start getting babies), my REAL concern is if I ever have this dream and I don’t panic. What will this mean? And will I then panic when I wake up because I’ll suddenly feel an overwhelming need to get pregnant as soon as possible.

Only time will tell… but for now, I have ALL that I need and I am so immensely thankful for everything. :o)

Living in bliss,
- GayGirl

To object, or grin and bear it?

2008-10-09T04:31:00.000-07:00

Every now and then - especially as a gay person and sometimes with higher frequency than what you imagine - a situation comes up, when you're faced with the moral dilemma of whether to object (and consequently reprimand?) or simply grin and bear it.

So why would you choose the latter, if it's against your morals? Well, because the first option of objecting will often lead you to avoid having to hear the comments, but it will rarely do more than that. Basically, this means that you won't be there to object to other - and perhaps harsher - comments.

So... Grin and bear it? Well, I find myself taking this road more often than not. I tell myself that it's simply to stay on top of the situation instead of missing out on worse comments than the wisecrack about the waiter's lisp and lose wrist. I'm not so sure that I'm not sometimes just chickening out, but I can guarantee that I would never accept or ignore any truly hateful or discriminating comment. I guess that means that I'll choose to grin and bear it as a general rule, which instead means that the real question is: Up to which point? What is my personal limit and how will I then react?

Feeling quite philosophical,
- GayGirl

Am I an addict?

2008-10-07T03:08:00.000-07:00

Yes, I'm afraid I have to admit that I am an addict.

It's not one of the usual Rock n' Roll addictions like alcohol or drugs or even smoking. But it IS an addiction and it is definitely bad for me: Food.

And no, I'm not at the point where I'm dangerously obese. Actually, I'm not obese by any definition, but I am overweight and would be a lot healthier if I lost a good 15-20 pounds. Fortunately I also eat healthy things, but my issue is with moderation.

You know how they say you can have anything in moderation? Well, I'm not so sure about that. I can't have just ONE piece of chocolate if I have a whole box in front of me... Excuse me, but *chuckles* "a box in front of me".. oh, how my mind easily wanders into naughty areas. :oP

ANYWAY, I can't stop after just one piece, and I know it. So my point - and yes, as always, I do actually have one - is that when you get down to basics, it's no different than the addiction to i.e. alcohol. You wouldn't say "Oh, go ahead, Bob, I know you're an alcoholic, but you know how they say everything is fine in moderation... Go ahead, enjoy a drink or two on the weekends".

But somehow, food just isn't considered as serious as alcohol, smoking or drugs. Even though obesity is now a heavy burden on hospitals around the world just as smoking, alcohol and drugs have been for years. I just wish everyone would accept the fact that some people have problems with food just as others have with smoking or alcohol. And respect this addiction as something serious, by - at the very least - not trying to persuade them that it okay to eat the chocolate or a piece of cake, because "You have to indulge sometimes, and you're doing so well... Everything is fine in moderation". My ASS it is.

I have gotten this far without becoming obese and am well on my way to losing weight, because I don't indulge and I accept that I can't have that first "taste" of my addiction without falling off the wagon.

Actually, this entire complaint is only mildly personal annoyance, since my real issue is to see friends who experienced massive weightloss be tempted by so-called friends, when you KNOW they have a problem with food. I have personally seen one of my best childhood friends lose and gain 100 pounds THREE times. Everything's going fine, and everybody's impressed, but once it seems like a "new lifestyle", the 'friends' are back with their good intentions and cliche advice of "moderation".

Anyway... I won't have it anymore. I won't pressure anyone overweight into dieting, but if they make that step, I certainly won't pressure them into returning to their bad habits just cause they do well.

And with that, I'm off to eat some healthy snacks. ;o)

- GayGirl

Woman, feminist, cook... Goddess!

2008-10-02T01:16:00.000-07:00

I would like to direct your attention to Domestic Goddess Nigella Lawson, who - in my humble opinion - is the essense of being a woman. When you look the word "Woman" up in a dictionary, you should see Nigella. I know many men and women who simply adore her (like me!), but I also know many that are intimidated by her and without knowing anything about her, turns to words such as "food porn" or "repressed" (?!) to describe her.

Well, excuse me, but are you completely blind or have you simply been living under a rock?! This woman is a feminist of the BEST kind, if you ask me - and I know you didn't, but I really couldn't care less cause you're reading my blog and so I'm in charge... Oh yeah, baby, I am woman, hear me roar. See? That's what I mean, just writing about her I feel empowered.

But yes, I will give you that she is a VERY sensual persona, and when she's cooking (if ya know what I mean *wink, wink, nudge, nudge*?!) then Wifey and I can't help but smile and laugh at how very erotic even the most simple roast potato can become, because yes, she is very flirtatious. However, I really don't think it's something she does intentionally.
In fact, here's a little tidbit from a Herald Time article on that exact topic:

"I always feel people overstress that," she says. "My producers are women and they're heterosexual women. As far as I'm aware, their view isn't that I'm going to be singing my siren song."

Perhaps. But it's hard to discount Lawson's flirtatious ways with the camera, the knowing, sidelong glances, the slow bites. Overstressed or not, food and sensuality blur a bit on Lawson's set.

"I love food and I'm very greedy," she says. "But I always feel it makes it sound like I'm doing some exotic dance of the seven veils."

In a cooking-mood... or maybe I just feel like watching Nigella cooking shows? If I wasn't in touch with being gay, I think my first time watching Nigella would've taken care of that. ;o)
- GayGirl

P.S. Bonus item of the day that may tickle your interest:
"... most [women] simply have, somewhere, a fantasy about having sex, in a non-defining, non-exclusive way, with other women"

- Nigella Lawson in her article "Sapphism is more than designer-dykery" from The Guardian.

Allow me to explain...

2008-09-30T03:05:00.000-07:00

I'm one of those potentially boring people that exist in the bliss of "we". My wife and I have long been living under the dogma that "We're a package deal" meaning that if you want one of us, you get both. If you insist on only one, then you get... Nada!

It's not that we NEED to be together all the time, it's simply that we choose to. Because we WANT to.

Anyway, a while back I was thinking of a way to explain the way I feel, and the obvious first point is the fact that we're lovers AND absolutely best friends - soul mates in every way, if you believe in that sort of thing. But still, people seem to think this is just 'a line' that we [people of the homosexual persuasion] use to "promote our lifestyle". That's right, you KNOW you can hear some right wing homophobes using that exact line.

So here goes, this is my way of explaining how I feel about my wife:

You know when you have a great dream. No matter what your great dream is, you know it's the kind of dream where, when you wake up, you immediately try to go back to sleep. You do this, because all you want is to return to this world within your dream. Well, what if when you went to bed you could go to this dreamworld every night, and keep on having new experiences within this world? Wouldn't you just accept and Cherish this possibility? My life with my wife IS that great dream for me. And I always choose to live the dream with my wife. I cannot think of a reason why I shouldn't.

Feeling the love,
- GayGirl

I love this song

2008-09-29T01:06:00.000-07:00

This song really doesn't suit my state of mind or feelings in general, but I remember a time when it fit my life perfectly. Actually, I didn't even know this song back then - thank you radio, Internet and YouTube for opening up the vast world of music. ;o)

Anyway, I'm sure others can relate to this song - or remember a time when they could - so I'd still like to share it with you. It's called "Losing you" and is by a Danish band called Kira & The Kindred Spirits. As far as I know they've made two amazing albums, though my favorite is without a doubt the one called "This is not an exit", where this song is from. I know the lead singer spent a lot of time in the US, and is friends with another of my favorite artist, Beth Hart, who has mentioned her at various concerts and in interviews.

Tonight I'll go to bed
Unsatisfied
My world is caving in
And I've got no place left to hide

And I won't let you down
But I've got scars in my mind
Your life is in my hands
I can't pretend that
Things are fine

Although I am scared
To sing you this song
I'm scared the words I say
Will cast in stone the
Damage done

And all that we have tried
And all that we did wrong
And who will hold the blame
And who will fight
Til love moves on

And I... I'm losing,
Yes I'm Losing you again...

And how is that babe
How is that babe
How is that my friend

You've got your pain
To tend to
A day to put an end to
A womb to climb back into
And a love that never bends you

Well all it seems I'm left with is some
Clarity to lend you
All it seems I'm left with
Is some truth to offend you

And I'm... I'm losing you,
I'm Losing you again...

Have you ever waited
Too long
When you knew your life's
Gone Wrong

And of course, you really should hear the song, 'cause the singer is one of the best in the world at portraying all the emotions of the lyrics in any song. I wanted to hear the song today and of course I found it on YouTube within seconds, so just go here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QqYn9bt_iSE

Getting in touch with all feelings,
-GayGirl

UPDATE: LindSam on Loveline audio

2008-09-25T00:08:00.000-07:00

Here's a working link to the LindSam audio - the one from AfterEllen couldn't handle all the traffic. ;o)

Listen to the FULL interview directly from Loveline's website here

Just find the September 21st audio link called "Lindsay Lohan and Samantha Ronson call the show" - it's still the first link as this post is being made.

Happy to help,
- GayGirl

LindSam confirms romance and Aiken is [officially] out

2008-09-24T00:26:00.000-07:00

A lot has been said about Lindsay Lohan's way of dealing with the "rumours" of her being in a romantic relationship with Samantha Ronson. Now, I can understand and (at least in theory) respect the fact that as long as she hasn't confirmed anything, then it would technically be "outing her", when you report on their relationship.
However, she has done nothing to hide their relationship or her feelings, and has done everything short of saying "Yep, I'm gay". So why is it that when it's a same-sex relationship, then we simply have to have this verbal confirmation? I think it's just plain stupid, and LindSam have handled it all in a great way, which Sarah Warn of AfterEllen has written a great piece on here - oh yes, I do adore the entire concept and execution of the AfterEllen concept.
Anyway, all those in need of the verbal confirmation now have it! :o) Lindsay Lohan has now openly talked about their relationship live on the radio via phone in by stating that they've been together for "A very long time", when asked directly about their relationship (don't take my word for it, you can hear it here).
Again, I'll just point you in the direction of AfterEllen for the full story.
Lindsay truly makes me feel proud for her and the way she handled everything with the press throughout the rumours and constant speculation about her very public feelings. You rock! :o)

All smiles,
- GayGirl

P.S. I don't mean to diminish Clay Aiken's "Yes, I'm gay" statement on the cover of People Magazine, but it was hardly a surprise, and while Lindsay hasn't been hiding, then he really has been very coy about the "gay issue". I will however give him due respect, for coming out with his son in his arms, and attracting focus to gay parents. AfterElton (yes, I love that site too, and I LOVE gay guys, so I'll be sure to touch back on that topic soon) has the full story.

It's working already...

2008-09-23T01:51:00.000-07:00

See, my Blog Oath is working already 'cause here I am again!

Actually, I just realized that my true allegiance lies somewhere else - not that this means I won't keep my promises and live by my pledge of yesterday. I am not a fickle person, so you needn't worry.

In any case, here goes... The pledge that will triumph all others at any given time:

I pledge allegiance to my wife and to the marriage which symbolises our unity, one love, indivisible, with liberty and justice for us both

Always,
- GayGirl

The Blog Oath

2008-09-22T01:35:00.000-07:00

Okay, so I really haven't been doing my job with this blog, which would be actually blogging on a regular basis. For that, I beg your forgiveness and humbly ask that you give me a chance to redeem myself as I make this Blog Oath:

I pledge allegiance to my blog and to the people who read it, one blog under me, indivisible, with humor, honesty, justice and at least one post a week for all to read.

I always keep my promises... At least when I actually mean them while making them ;o),
- GayGirl

A good job is great, a bad job is... HELL!

2008-09-11T03:34:00.000-07:00

Okay, so I'm in a really good job now, which made me think about how I've been pretty happy with the jobs I've had. Except for one time, where I took on a job even though I had a feeling it wasn't right.

So why did I take it? Well, it's pretty simply actually:

1) Because they headhunted me, which was really flattering, and

2) They offered a damn nice paycheck, which I actually really needed.

Anyway, I learned my lesson quite fast, as I almost didn't make it home after the first day of work before breaking down in tears. In all honesty, my breakdown was due to many things, but boiled down to the fact that I'd left a steady job - which I could do with my eyes closed - and had great colleagues and quite a lot of freedom... Only thing missing was a decent salary and a promotion (both of which I had been promised for a long time).

The other "cry factor" was the fact that this new workplace had absolutely no freedom and a lot of extra hours, which I had said already at the job interview was the one thing I absolutely wasn't interested in. Because of this I felt cheated from the get go, and over all, I just wasn't happy. Plain and simple.

I only lasted a couple of months at this company before I found a new job, which I simple love - everyone could feel my misery, when I was at the other company, which became especially visible after I left the place and everyone commented on how happy I seemed again. And really, if I hadn't left my old job to take on the job I hated, then I probably wouldn't have ended up where I am now, so it was probably meant to be. Still, it was a really bad time for me.

But I do have to say that the people at that bad workplace were really nice - I was 'out and proud' from the first time they contacted me about the job and everyone accepted me completely - so I got to know some good people, and I learned a huge lesson:

Listen to your inner voice, gut feeling, intuition, WHATEVER you want to call it. It's usually right!

Happy at work,

- GayGirl

P.S. My sweet wife was ready to let me quit right away, cause she saw how unhappy I was, but I couldn't do this. First of all because we needed the money (it was after all one of the reasons I took the job), but also because I'm not a quitter. And they actually really liked me there, and offered me to come back if I changed my mind, but it just wasn't for me. Not the people or the work really, but the company and the way they did business, which was the one thing no one could change.

On vacations with Ellen

2008-09-03T04:51:00.000-07:00

Sometimes these things happen, where you can't help but think that there is some greater force tying everything together. For me, this moment of enlightenment always come when I'm travelling, and somehow I always stumble across Ellen's talkshow... And I mean WHEREEVER I am. Obviously, it's no surprise that Ellen is on, when I'm in New York, but in the Middle East or Africa... i.e. Egypt?!

Now, the fact that her show was on isn't in itself that mindblowing amazing - Rachel Ray, Dr. Phil and Oprah were also on, so it's not like Ellen RULED the TV screens of Egypt. However, what IS amazing is the fact that whenever we're travelling and come across an episode of Ellen's talkshow, it's always one where's she's celebrating Cinco de Mayo! I mean, come on... I travel to New York in May and catch a show on the day of Cinco de Mayo: No surprise. But Ellen on TV in a Muslim country in September and again: It's Cinco de Mayo... AND on top of that, it's one I haven't seen before.

Uh huh, I'm really starting to believe that Ellen DeGeneres is the fabric that ties the world together. . .
Scratch that! She even talks with animals... Now I KNOW she is! ;o)

Back in business,
- GayGirl

Ellen & Portia marry

2008-08-17T08:42:00.000-07:00

Woohoo, this is definitely the wedding of the year - as far as I'm concerned, anyway!

Congratulations Ellen & Portia... You are amazing together and set the most beautiful example for all the world to see.

A good day to be...
- GayGirl

HAPPY 50TH BIRTHDAY MADONNA!

2008-08-16T01:01:00.000-07:00

Diva, legend and QUEEN of pop... We salute you!

Honeymoon miracle

2008-08-14T00:46:00.000-07:00

I completely forgot about the time we didn't actually plan to stay anywhere near a Chevy's, but still we ended by one by pure luck from the Goddess above.

We were driving from San Francisco to Los Angeles, and had made quite a few stops on the way there, so we decided to spend the night at a motel somewhere in between and just went through our coupon book, and found one to our satisfaction (we like it cheap, but GOOD, so we're by no means a "budget" kind of travelling couple, LOL).
Anyway, we pull up to this motel, and right next to it - and I mean RIGHT next to it - was a Chevy's! It was perfect and obviously, since we we're staying right next to it, we could go a bit Margarita crazy (or actually, we were all about Strawberry Daiquiries back then)... Ooooh, it was great!

Oh, AND this was our honeymoon (driving around in California 'cause we LOVE roadtrips), so it really was like a wedding present from above.

Happy thoughts,
- GayGirl

I LOVE Chevy's!

2008-08-13T00:25:00.000-07:00

The fresh, delicious Mexican food that I simply cannot get enough of - their Sizzling Fajitas are especially good at getting my juices flowing. If I could only go to one restaurant for the rest of my life, Chevy's would definitely be in my top five. Why not number one, you say?! Well, my conscience comes into play here, and in order to give myself even more delicious and healthy options (if we're talking one restaurant for the rest of my life), I'd have to go with Fresh Choice, which is one of my all time top favorites too.

But still... Chevy's is and always will be the place I HAVE to go to, if I was travelling to a city, where they have a franchise. Oh, and for the record, they DON'T have one where we live - both my Wifey and I adore Chevy's and actually, she's the one who introduced me to it (Thanks Hon!). The truth is, when we plan our vacations and decide on i.e. a road trip, then we'll actually plan our route based on where we can drop by a Chevy's.

I think we've gone to about 4 or 5 different Chevy's so far, and my favorite is probably the one in New York (right by Times Square and next to two movie theaters) and not only because the food has been perfect and the staff absolutely wonderful (and often gay, LOL), but also because when we're in New York, neither of us will have to drive home, cause we'll just walk home.
And you know what that means:

GayGirl & Wifey: "We'll both have a Margarita"
Cute waiter: "You want the regular or large one?"
GayGirl & Wifey (quick look at each other and then the waiter gets our answer in unision): "LARGE, please!"

And of course, we also have the Chevy's Cookbook, so now we go a little crazy sometimes and cook up all the delicious dishes (along with Margaritas, of course)... Still, there is nothing like the real deal.

Oh Chevy's... I miss you - and my mouth is watering just from thinking about you! ;o)

- GayGirl

Is my dog gay?

2008-08-11T09:44:00.000-07:00

Our little household consists of my wonderful Wifey, our cat and our dog (both female) and myself so there's a lot of oestrogen flowing around in this house. Especially these days... our dog is in heat!

However, she's not really all that interested in the male dogs. I mean, she likes all dogs and all people, but still, it would seem quite natural for her to be CRAZY for some male dog attention these days. So, I'm wondering if maybe my dog is gay? I mean, all the religious fanatics already love to think that we (the homosexuals) are contagious, which is why kids and other vulnerable individuals should be kept far away from us, right?

Then again, this might all change once she hits the peak of her heat. By that time she'll probably be a regular little trollop! ;o)

How about LindSam?

2008-08-10T01:00:00.000-07:00

Okay, let's get to it... I can hardly keep avoiding it, and why should I? As a GayGirl I have been keeping an eye on the Lindsay Lohan and Samantha Ronson stories, and something has been puzzling me lately; We have LiLo and SamRon, but they still haven't really gotten a combined name like Brangelina or TomKat, sooo...

How about LindSam?

I like it... I'm using it!

Also, regarding the question of "Are they even together?" Well, if they were two people of the opposite sex, then people wouldn't need the confirmation of anyone having to come out or describe the nature of their relationship. And really, isn't it a positive thing, that Lindsay treats this like any other realtionship? I mean, she wouldn't give a press conference or send out a public statement confirming that she was dating some guy or got a new friend (of any sex) either.

And in ANY case, whether they're together or not (which, for the record, I absolutely think they are), they do seem very happy and everything has just gotten better for both Lindsay Lohan's career and her overall behaviour, so I can't see that the relationship is bad in any way. I have high hopes for the future of LindSam and hope they stay on track in every way. :o)

Feelin' the love,
- GayGirl

P.S. If they are a couple that doesn't even mean Lindsay views herself as a lesbian, and therefore asking her to "come out" is a bit much. Maybe they just fell in love and are happy together, and they certainly aren't hiding how happy they are. Can't we just appreciate that? I can. And I do.

Take me to the Titty Bar!

2008-08-09T03:11:00.000-07:00

"It gets a little crowded at the bar." was Brad Pitt's choice of words for pointing out Angelina Jolie's difficulty in trying to breastfeed the couple's newborn twins simultaneously (as quoted in PEOPLE magazine's article, which featured the first pictures of the twins and the entire Jolie-Pitt family).

That quote even made it to the Top 10 Best Celeb quotes of the week - and with good reason. When I read that quote all I could think was "Take me to the Titty Bar"... but at my age that's for completely different reasons.
Hmm, maybe I should just get the T-shirt! ;o)
- GayGirl

There can be only one - Part II

2008-08-08T04:13:00.000-07:00

P.S. Just to spare you the possibility of any further embarrassment, here's a few other people that need no last name for us (the initiated) to know who we're refering to: Barbra (Streisand), Judy (Garland), Liza (Minelli), Bette (Midler)... I know, I know, sometimes I do seem more like a gay MAN than GayGirl, but I'm just a good allround gay, I guess. ;o)
Hmm, and I feel like I'm forgetting quite a few... I'll get back to you on that.

- GayGirl

There can be only one

2008-08-08T00:04:00.000-07:00

No, I'm not talking about The Highlander (though I admit, I do like the movie and ADORE the song "Who wants to live forever" by Queen). I'm talking about Ellen, sooo...

If I say Ellen, you say "Which one?"... Then you truly are among the uninitiated! But not to fear, I will teach you. There is only one Ellen... Ellen DeGeneres!

She was willing to throw herself out there. She may not have been a HUGE star back then, but she did have her own hit show, came out in a MAJOR way and she paved the way for many. She also took the heat and backlash (perfectly illustrated in her show "The Beginning", which is a MUST-SEE and should be in your collection).

I remember being a wee GayGirl. Probably not really knowing I was gay, but definitely knowing I was different - and that I felt more for the women in the movies than the men. Or rather, I wanted to be the leading man. No, not actually really BE him, but in order to get the leading lady. ;o)

Anyway, I watched "Ellen" (the original sitcom), before she came out, and immediately felt a connection to this hysterically funny woman, who nearly made me pee in my pants from laughing... several times. I pretty much knew I was "a Gay", when Ellen did come out, but it still made a huge impact on me. This was also because it was around the time I had started searching for gay movies and books, and here she was just being gay EVERYWHERE, and suddenly I didn't have to look for it anymore. Also, it was around the time I had my first girlfriend, and so in every way, being gay had just become much more "real" somehow.

In any case, I ADORE Ellen... and like Elvis, Madonna og Cher, there is NO need for the last name (okay, only the first one actually uses a last name, but still). If I mean another Ellen, then I'll be sure to include that Ellen's last name, m'kay?!

Now... Go watch Ellen's talkshow - you may even catch a glimpse of the wonderful Portia de Rossi. ;o)

- GayGirl

I never thought I'd say this...

2008-08-06T00:01:00.001-07:00

Paris Hilton ROCKS!!!
If you haven't seen the new video, where Paris announces she's accepting "McCain's nomination of her", then you are surely missing out. This video is just SO tongue-in-cheek and simply perfect at making truly excellent points. Lordy, I suddenly have a new respect for Paris Hilton - and I've always accepted that she's a master of promoting herself, which is to be admired, but this takes her to a new level.

Wanna see what all the fuss is about, then just follow this link directly to the video:
http://www.funnyordie.com/videos/64ad536a6d

You GO, girl!

Much respect,
- GayGirl

We are family... The Jolie-Pitt twins

2008-08-04T12:52:00.000-07:00

Finally, the first pictures of the Jolie-Pitt twins were released on Sunday, and they really do look adorable:

Image source: GossipBoulevard.com

Welcome to the world (and the worldwide web), little Vivienne Marcheline and Knox Leon. :o)
- GayGirl

He's the man!

2008-08-04T12:37:00.000-07:00

I LOVE my Advocate.com newsletter, because unlike the regular news, there's often something good and uplifting among these news - of course, it's not like reading a fairytale, since there's plenty of hate crime, homophobia and right wing fanatics that love to speak their mind, but still.

Today my "That's what I've been saying all along"-moment came, when reading this teaser in the Advocate news update:

"An openly gay man equally successful at playing a prime-time pussy hound and securing major endorsement deals, Neil Patrick Harris is doing just what closeted actors and their minders have called impossible."

It is so strange how this has gone under the rader for so long, which is why I am loving this article featured on Out.com

Happy gay greeting,
- GayGirl

Life is good

2008-08-01T02:53:00.000-07:00

Today is a good day. The weather is amazing and I'm working from home, so I took our dog out for a walk and just enjoyed the weather. It's always so quiet outside in the middle of the day compared to the usual morning og afternoon traffic, when I go to the office. Actually, I don't work from home much, but we do have the option and on a day like this, it's just perfect. You can sit outside while working, take a break and walk the dog or enjoy a refreshing beverage (no, not alcohol... I'm working remember) outside. Oh, I should probably explain that I work with marketing and in particular online activities, which can be done from anywhere with a laptop and access to the Internet really, so you gotta love that. ;o)

Oops, got a bit sidetracked there. My point (and I do have one) was simply that I love the summer and the sunshine to the point where I can always take more. I don't need it to end or complain that it's too hot - just drink water and stay in the shade and you'll be fine. That's how I see it anyway.

Anyway, just wanted to share that... I am a summerchild for sure. Maybe it's because I was born in August and just thrive on sunshine and warmth - oh yeah, I'm a Leo and damn proud of it, but we'll get to that.

Sunny smiles,
- GayGirl

She-Hulk?

2008-07-31T03:12:00.000-07:00

Okay, this might be pretty geeky - or actually, if I was geeky enough, I would already know this. In ANY case... I just now found out that there is a She-Hulk!!!

So obviously, the correct answer to my "Superhero" question should be "She-Hulk" instead of just "Hulk". And she's pretty hot and everything, so instead of being a big green giant, I am now a really foxy superhero... Woohoo, who knew?! ;o)

- GayGirl